I’ve always been considered to be patient; however, the level thereof was tested once I had a child and had to balance the rest of my life. I’ve heightened my patience by implementing new techniques – if baby is sleepy and throwing a tantrum I do what I call “stepping within myself.” It essentially means I stop focusing solely on her for a moment (which includes making sure she’s safe first), I stop doing everything and just meditate on the spot, standing if I have to. I focus on the fact that I love her more than life, that she is imperfect, regardless of how perfect I think she is, lol, that she is just a baby who hasn’t learned to express herself in other ways, that I have the capacity to be as patient as needed… I take deep breaths and then I’m able to refocus on the task at hand.
This has helped me with her, with my mother, with schoolwork, with myself… 1 week ago
So yesterday to be proactive at my goal of being a good mother I started the day off by cooking a big breakfast!!! Then we went to grandmas & did art together!! We had so much fun drawing faces!! My honey is such a great artist!!! Today I’m making pancakes, eggs, bacon, and yogurt & banana for breakfast! Then we r going to a very prestigious school to apply for preschool!! After that I’m taking her to the park! Today I want emphasize positive affirmations to build her self confidence!! I love being a mommy!!! 3 weeks ago
My youngest is over 21, so mothering is a different thing now. 4 weeks ago
Tmrw is a diaper free day! We are potty training! Gota pack extra clothes for our trip to Costco! Wish us luck!! :)) 4 weeks ago
I knew I needed assistance with my baby when I felt myself starting to become impatient and depressed. My entire outlook has practically changed in the time I’ve had a nanny. She watches my baby, on average, six hours a day while I’m home and still interacting with them…but it still helps immensely. When I need to focus on schoolwork – I can. When I want to exercise – I can. When I just need to take a shower without worrying about baby or drink a cup of tea in silence – I can. I’m a better mother for it. I’m well rested and go running with her, play with the toys together, build castles that I just know she’ll intentionally knock over, do somewhat creative stuff like play in the leaves, hold her and dance around the house, and let her climb the stairs a million times with me right there behind her. #blessed 4 weeks ago
For Halloween I dressed my angelcakes as an adorable ladybug. We first went to her doctor’s appointment – I had to stop the nurses from running off her with in their attempt to show everyone her/her outfit, Lol. I then took her around to visit friends and family. That evening me, my nanny and my best friend took her to the mall. She and I rode on the merry-go-round together and then we all went to the Cheesecake Factory where she ate mashed potatoes for the first time and (as usual) had everyone in the establishment falling in love with her. My nanny kindly video-recorded the merry-go-round ride and we both took lots of pictures while we were out eating. I look forward to sharing all of this with her when she gets older. 4 weeks ago
In my front yard’s there’s a beautiful tree that (now) has yellow and red leaves. I took my 9 month old out to explore. I sat us both down in the middle of the huge pile. We had a ball! Each leaf I picked up she would crawl over to me and grab… then she’d either try to taste it or would throw it down and play with the leaves underneath and surrounding her. She loved trying to walk through them (but would just end of kicking them instead) and crawling through them and having me chase her. She also enjoyed picking really big leaves directly from the tree. I had her help me collect a few really pretty ones and I arranged them in an empty frame. I intend on adding the date, a title, and perhaps a picture or hand print commemorating her first fall. 1 month ago
I’m determined to make sure we have some half term fun despite a number of ongoing battles, illnesses and commitments.
So far we’ve managed…
- A day with Grandad and Uncle
- Friday night film night with big sis
- Birthday fun with friends, dancing and entertainment
- Fimo and modelling clay creativity
- Lots of stories including more Narnia
- A walk in the sun to choose magazines
- An afternoon with Grandma playing board games
- Making robots, tiaras and wands (as I type)!
I really want to do some more outdoor activities but feeling really unwell and just walking about the house is a challenge. Hoping to feel better soon and visit park, woods, beach etc. 1 month ago
...that that idiot caused me, the most hurtful (worse than his cheating and lies), was his criticising my parenting, not to me, but to my friend.
He said he thought I was soft on the children and referred to my youngest daughter as a ‘brat’. He failed to mention that her tantrum resulted from him changing plans without consulting me and I thought I couldn’t go against him as I didn’t want to undermine him.
My youngest does paddy quite a lot, I ask her to sit on the thinking mat and talk to me when she’s calmed down. I don’t shout at my kids as I think it just teaches them to shout, it upsets them and it leaves me feeling bad.
One of the reasons I left him as I thought he was too hard on his children, he was scary and I felt uncomfortable about that.
What I need to do now is ensure that my break up doesn’t have any negative impact on them. If anything I think I can be more stable now, I just to eliminate his voice in my head criticising me :( 1 month ago
unless they are just out of the shower.
this goes on for at least a month.
this puts mama in a semi-sh^%$y mood when dwelled upon. 1 month ago