Sometimes caring what people think is needed to an extent like for reassurance if you doubt yourself and you need a self esteem boost. I just have to realize that not everyone will like me and those are the people I need to ignore. I used to get upset when people seemed not to like me. I always wanted to fix it and persuade them to like me. I realize I need to be true to myself and if I’m not liked its ok. 3 days ago
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If I didn’t care so much about what other’s think of me….what sort of person would I be???? 1 month ago
Well I wore my hair in style that I never have worn before. I got bantu or nubian knots for a few days so when I take it down my hair will be super curly. Well some people were not as receptive to my hairstyle while it was in the knots, but I chose to focus on positive reactions for those who knew the reason I had my hair that way. It felt great to walk and feel good about myself regardless of what other people comments. 2 months ago
Most of my life I’ve cared what others thought bout me. I’ve always tried to please people especially my family by trying to do what they thought was acceptable. I might not keep up with trends but its ok because I’m different & Imma continue to do me. This goal is almost complete 2 months ago
i hurt it when someone thinks 3 months ago
Last night a group of us at work did a cancer walk with one of our co-workers who is a recent survivor. He was inviting people along, and invited the girl I work my station with. She mentioned it, but didn’t extend the invite. Then he asked me to join. I told her I’m going too, and she was obviously disappointed. It hurt my feelings, because I had been under the impression we get along rather well, and I could consider her like a friend. She’s constantly saying we need to hang out, we never do. And she never invites me.
Not everyone needs to like me. And I understand we need to get along working so close. But if she doesn’t want me to join a cancer walk, then I’d appreciate her not pretending she’d like to hang out sometime as friends. 6 months ago
It almost seems that since I’ve posted it, I’ve had more challenges than ever… I got swept into a consuming guilt a few days ago that had absolutely nothing to do with me… it was just something I witnessed that was totally fair, but I felt that some of the people involved didn’t think the result was “fair”.... (too long to explain the whole thing really)... anyway, again, it had NOthing to do with me, yet I felt guilty and sad for those who felt things weren’t fair…
I told a few of my friends about my guilt and anxiety over the event, and one of them said to me (with a really sweet and genuine concern), “where in the world does all of this guilt that you carry come from?” .... tears welled in my eyes and I responded, “It goes way back I think”...
I don’t know what it is in me that feels I need to help EVERYone feel better ALL of the time ~ I know it’s impossible, yet I still want to do it and feel responsible somehow when someone else is troubled….
one step forward, two steps back I guess… but I’ll keep working on it for sure 9 months ago
someone passed on to me a (slight) criticism that someone else had said about me this morning ~ isn’t it odd how it seems to be human nature for friends to tell others things they’ve overheard “for their own good”?
anyway, it wasn’t really a big deal, and I’m actually proud of myself for not getting all anxious and worried about it. The criticism was told to me in front of several other close friends and I just replied calmly and sincerely that I was taking it as a spiritual test and refused to respond in a negative or defensive way.
The old me would have been knotted up in a ball and felt like I needed to do something to try and be more accepted by the criticizer… but now, I’m just repeating my mantra: “What others say about me is none of my business. It’s not about me. It’s about them and their views.”
There’s still a twinge of hurt, but I know I’m doing better… and another helpful quote for me is “You can’t please all of the people all of the time.” 10 months ago