Just fucking do it. Nah, I’m just kidding, kind of. Plan and research, get a stead stable income; GTFO. INDEPENDENCE FTW. 1 week ago
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I love my family, but life at home is hard now we’re all teenagers – I feel suffocated. It’s about 9 months til I go to University, where I will be moving to a different city depending on where I get in. Hopefully things will be better when I have my space and freedom. 4 weeks ago
Lately I’ve been feeling the strong urge to have my own place. I’m fully aware that’s not going to happen soon. But I have some nervous feeling about it in my stomach.
Our lives would improve so much if we had our own home, where we have freedom and place for all our things.
And if the home was in the countryside… Huh! (ok, this is too much to hope for.)
However, and unfortunately – this is not even close to coming true in the near future. 2 months ago
got the marketing/sales job, or any decent job that pays wellish, once i was settled with it, i would plan to move out then.
even if i have to live in a room in shared accomdation. so be it. i need to move out. 2 months ago
I do not remember the last time I logged in 43things and looking at my list made me realize I actually closed a lot of them which is pretty cool. On another light, a lot of these I have no interest on persuing for different reasons. Mostly because they’re now irrelevant having more pressing things to tackle in these few years that have passed.
On moving out, I was able to do this two years ago and I actually still live in the same apartment I first moved into. The place is a two-storey apartment, huge space resembling an actual house. More than half of the first year was a struggle because coming from unemployment I didn’t have enough money to pay for my part of the lease so I had to loan from a friend. Having to settle the rent, monthly expenses, and paying back the loan left me very little for personal expenses, sometimes none at all. There were times where I really had no money for lunch I had to go home to eat. Sometimes, I walked home because I didn’t even had enough change.
I was broke but I had no intention of going back to my parents. I wasn’t having the time of my life but I still had lots to be thankful for. Bills, even if they consume most of my income, validated my independence. I had food in my fridge, a bed to sleep on (with nice fluffy pillows), I had clothes that make me feel good and I was healthy. It worked out a little bit after. I was even able to get out of my credit card debt and finished off the loan from my friend.
I guess that just represents me crawling out of my comfort zone.
Now the bad parts. Well, let me just call them challenges. I’m a girl and I live with guys. So number one issue is mess. Mess in the kitchen and mess in bathroom. That is gross and just drained me a lot of times. I come home and go straight to my room. These are people I’ve known for a long time and I have lots of fun with them. But when you actually live with them, it’s a different story. It’s like knowing different dimensions of their personality. You’ll hate each others guts and them laugh about it after a few days.
Another thing that can go terribly wrong is if you have psycho boyfriends. I was in a terrible relationship and this guy just went crazy on me and my housemates which I knew he wouldn’t dare do if he was at my parent’s house. What’s good about it is you come home to a place with friends who will talk to you and comfort you with their presence.
It’s a roller coaster. Lot’s of ups and downs. Definitely, we want more ups than downs and I feel that I’ve had more of that. In addition, I learned a lot about myself. What breaks me, the strengths I now recognize but I have yet to exploit.
But the big question is it, worth it? Oh hell yes! 2 months ago
Sometimes life doesn’t go the way you had hoped it would when you were younger. When these sticky circumstances are over, I will be so happy! 2 months ago
decided i will move out once i have a new job. then i will move closer to the new job ideally.
so this will be an incentive to get going with the job hunt.
cant wait for this to happen. 3 months ago
its time for this too. love my folks and all… but they can be very stressful to live with at the best of times.
and I just need my privacy and freedom back. been living with them for 3 years now. definitely long overdue.
so my options is this. I stay in the town I live and work in and try and find a room in a shared house. this is doable.
I try and find a small studio/1 bed flat in my town… more difficult as its very expensive and especially if I want to try and change jobs. will earn less money. its doable, but I will be struggling to make ends meet.
I try and find a room in shared house in the next local town, which will be cheaper. or I try to find a studio/1 bed flat in next local town. again will be a bit cheaper. but need to check. I would only go for that because I will have a car now, and can drive back and forth to work and it will def help with increasing my confidence in driving, so lots of wins there.
want to start looking and looking at options. 3 months ago
My plan so far : Apply for a Master’s degree in occupational therapy. Get accepted. Work in a hospital for about a year and save money. then buy a house. Hope I will achieve this by 2017. 3 months ago
It slowly dawns on me still that I am in control of my life, and at length I am also in control of where I live. I don’t HAVE to live where I live now, but it sure is easier than trying to fend for myself at the moment.
I’m 22 years old and still living at home. That being said, I am not exactly proud of that truth, but thankfully my family is supportive of me going to college.
Just, eventually you graduate. Or drop out. Things happen. Then what?
As I continue to discover who I am, there is only so much you can discover about yourself living in the safe haven of home. At times I feel like a house cat: put me out in the wild, what will happen to me?
What I’ve decided is that I would like to live somewhere where I don’t have a lawn to cut. Honestly, I’m good with not having a lawn. An apartment would suit me fine, as long as it’s decent of course. Not perfect, but livable. I’m also learning to live with less. I’ve purged my inventory of items lately, getting rid of meaningless paperwork and outgrown items.
I long to live on my own, for independence, for privacy, and strangely enough, responsibility of my own life. 3 months ago