tell my best friend i love him

I want to tell him.
So badly
I’m moving state in a few weeks and won’t see him again for quite some time
So I feel I should tell him…should I?
He’s my best friend, and all I ever think about…he’s the only one I spend a lot of time with
But he has a girlfriend.
Sure he comes to me and tells me of all the fights they have, so I be the supportive best friend
But I don’t think he feels the same
Whether he does or not…I need to get it out in the open…

I have known him for about 15 yrs he used to live in ny but then move to virginia and then a few yrs later i realized that i loved him as more then just a friend but I am afraid to say anything to him cuz I dont want to destroy our friendship together. And I am afrid that he dont feel the say way about me. but i have a hunch that he might feel the same way about me. but idk if i should tell him or not I’m just afraid of his response to me.

him and i have been best friends for 4 years, we got matching tattoos of our initials. we have been and continue to be intimate with each other. i told him how i feel about 3 years ago, he DOES NOT feel that way for me, though he does love me just not the way i want him to. he’s all i want and think about. why cant i be that for him? he tells me he’s very attracted to me,and i turn him on. we do everything together. he even surprised me and put our initials on a tree at our favorite location. whats the problem with this?

I couldn’t get the courage to tell him face to face, so in a fit, I wrote a letter, so he knows. I wrote that I was willing to let him go for his happiness, his sake, and he took those words to heart and is now in his ex’s face. I want to cry now, I’m so angry. I love him so much, but he’s a shallow twit and I realize it now. He won’t love me like I thought because for him to ‘desire’ me, I would have to lose weight and straighten my hair. And I was too blind to recognize he never had feelings for me in the first place—we just fooled around for something to do (his words) but we can talk about anything and everything under the sun… I’m his best friend but I take those words with a grain of salt now. Cos everyone is his best friend, they know all his secrets, except that I’m the one that knows about his past…

I’m glad I didn’t have sex with him cos then I’d probably feel much worse. Still, I hurt. At least he was honest saying that if we were to have sex, it would be a f*ck, and he didn’t want me to be heartbroken.

It’s not fair—we can talk about anything and the sexual attraction is so strong—yet his idiot friends cheer him on to be with this girl (his ex) who they deem ‘hot’ but she’s stupid, doesn’t like his lifestyle, his friends, and me as his best friend, and he knows this but doesn’t give a damn cos he rather have a hot stupid chick on his arm to show off than have someone stimulate his mind and can actually carry on a conversation.

She wanted him to change and that’s why they broke up, but because they want sex, they’re back together again. I accepted my (best) friend for who he was, faults and all, but I’m ignored.

Why does this happen to me?! I’m always the best friend, but never the girlfriend.

I think my friend knows I want too much from him and he isn’t willing to change. He rather stay a loser cos that’s what he’s used to and it’s safer to be a drunk idiot and abuse drugs and fear love. I make him want to love, yet he doesn’t want it. He rather have sex and claims that’s love.

It makes me so sick inside. I have love to give, but I wouldn’t have sex (I used to be hard-core religous). Now things have changed in my life, I’ve accepted that religon wasn’t for me (it was fear based and I couldn’t live in fear anymore). He sees that I’ve changed, that I’ve become a much stronger person now. He doesn’t want someone stronger than him and has told me that he has his ex around his finger, that he can control her easily. I put him in his place. I tell him when he’s being an ass and he accepts this, but his need to be dominant is too strong. At least he sees me as his equal and has told me this (strange, isn’t it). He rather have me by his side as his comrade, fighting together than someone he wants to control.

I need to let him go, but he won’t let me go.

I love my best friend. I know lots of people say don’t tell him, but i dont know if he feels the same way… Im too scared to tell him. We have known each other for all of my life and we get on really well. But i don’t want to loose the close friendship that we have over this. HELP

I spend all my time with him, he calls me all the time when we’re apart. We’re so tight. We lie in bed wrapped around each other. We’re the best of friends, but yes i love him and i need to tell him, just to get it out in the open for one thing. I know i might be setting myself up for some real pain here, but im gonna do it before we graduate (4months time) coz im worried ill see him less after that. Man i feel so shit this valentines….

I’m not really sure what to do. There’s this lad, I’ve been best mates with him for about eight years now. We really are the best of friends – I trust and understand him more than anybody else I know, and I think he feels the same way about me. But then there’s something else. Just recently I’ve realised that I love him more than just a friend. I can’t stop thinking about him, and I just so desperately want him to know. I know he won’t feel the same way, but I just want him to know how I feel, but I’m just too nervous to say it. It’s always on the tip of my tongue, but I can’t quite come out with it.
Advice?

I told him I love him and that I didn’t want to ruin the friendship because of it and then he told me that he wasn’t straight. It was shocking at first, but we agreed to not let it bother either of us because we both told a secret about ourselves. It didn’t turn out the way I wanted or expected, but it was worth it all the way.

“Regret for things done can be tempered in time, regret for things not done is inconsolable”

I love that quote. I think it applies to something like this perfectly…

I thought about telling him for a long time and finally decided to about a month ago. I knew that he didn’t feel the same way (seeing how he was engaged to my other best friend) so I didn’t propose it as a question or leave it open-ended at all. I basically said “this is how i feel, i know its problem, i dont want to be with you, i just want to get over you and therefore im going to need some space, i hope we can continue to be friends again someday.” It was something like that. At first he reacted exactly how I would have wanted him to…he was respectful and treated me with dignity. Of course I didn’t want him to tell his fiancee but I felt it wasn’t my right to ask him not to. However, on his own, he told me that he wouldn’t tell her. But about a week or two ago he ended up telling her. I’m not sure why. Even though she was my “best friend” since high school I secretly resented her because she was extremely manipulative and controlling, spoiled, bratty, immature, dramatic, incredibly high-maintenence, and really pretentious. I tried to end the friendship several times but she would always start freaking out…like if she sensed you were pulling away from her…she would start crying and threatening to kill herself if I was ever not a part of her life. The thing that bothered me the most about her though is how she would confide in me her true feelings about her fiance (my other best friend, the one whom I told I loved). She said she loved him but wasn’t in love with him, that she felt trapped, that she didnt have any feelings for him and didn’t want to have sex with him and how if she did give in and have sex with him she felt like she was being raped. If she really loved him and treated him right I could have been at peace with their relationship but since I knew how she really felt it made feel really tormented inside. I could go on and on about all of this but to wrap things up basically I am no longer friends (or on speaking terms) with either one of them and in fact the one I told I loved ended up writing me and extremely hateful email the other day. Even though sometimes I think about how it all went down and regret that it happened that way, I must say that I am doing a million times better than I was before I told him. I feel SO free and really happy. It feels so good to not be tied to them anymore.

Anybody considering doing this just read the quote I included at the top. I bet you would regret not telling so much more than you would telling.

i love who he used to be…
but who he used to be is not my best friend..