don't sweat the small stuff

with sweating the small stuff!

I’ve spent a great deal of time throughout my life running to emergency rooms with my mom, and I was always calm and collected for those trips. I’ve been in all kinds of weird situations that may have freaked a lot of people out, but that I could handle like a pro.

But face me off with a tiny little problem? My food order is wrong; I spill a drink; My sister teases me about a silly thing… the stupider the problem, the more likely I am to totally lose my cool! I really, REALLY need to learn to chill out, and stop sweating the small stuff.

It is ALL small stuff in comparison to the BIG picture.

Last night I missed recording American Idol by one hour. My son, yes he’s 5, but nonetheless, told me he had it set to record. Then I did not realize until 9:07 it was not recording. I wanted to mostly record it for him. Now I have not really watched much this season but I like watching the finale of this show.

I was watching my other TV shows and figured I would watch with my son today. Then my husband comes upstairs and tells me who won. I got snippy at him and a bit pissed.

He reminded me it was just a TV show which I have not watched all season and I should not have gotten so mad. I told him it was the fact that I still wanted to watch the finale and he gave it away.

He is the one that reminded if he were to drop dead tomorrow, this whole fight was so stupid. There are other things going on more extreme like, babies having surgery and people losing their jobs, etc.

My quote! “When life hands you lemons, make lemontini’s. But most of all, always remember that other people will always have MORE LEMON’s to handle then you do no matter what the situation.”

A friend got me this book years ago. And it took a few years for me to even begin to scratch the surface of “not stressing.” It is now VERY clear to me that no matter how accommodating you wish and try to be, some people will NEVER meet you half way. So, I am learning to let go. Some projects and/or relationships (friendships, romantic, work, etc) aren’t cut out to last or work. In particular, my work requires that I pull back in certain areas. Last week I tested this out by asking to withdraw from a meeting, foreseeing that it would lead to stress and I plan to continue on that road. I am enjoying preserving my mental energy rather than of testing it. ohhh la la

Looking for concrete ways to avoid and reduce stress. hmmm. Maybe I have to work on my yoga goal or go to the gym … yuck. I dunno. I am going to put more thought into this …

This is going to be so hard for me to do, but I can see how this ties into so many other aspects of my life.

this is very hard to do but it can be done….....everything is pretty much small stuff…..Just be in the moment…it is a lifetime exercise…....

I rent a house that I have really love. Until lately and it’s kinda wearing me down. I have had issues with rats and actually just caught another on (the first one in about 6weeks) Wednesday. Had a water line leak that took 2 months for my landlord to find and when he found it it wasnt as bad as he thought. But when he dug up to fix the water lines he dug up my drive way. Which was a gravel driveway with not a lot of gravel on it to begin with. But now it has none so i got my car stuck in the mud last week when it rained. And yesterday my toile overflowed before work and later last night. I was washing a load of clothes and after they where done I put them in the dryer and off to the bathroom I went to get the towels that helped clean up the stopped up toilet mess. I walk in my bathroom and I discover 3 or 4 inches of standing water! Water pouring out of the toile the bath tub is full of water and overflowing along with the sink. Earlier in the evening when it stopped up for the second time I just sat and cried! It’s just been one thing after the next with that place and I had taken so much that I just sat and cried (for about an hour). But when I found the extreme mess at midnight last night. I didnt ever cry. It just kinda hit yeah things could be worse. So in a sense I did sweat the small stuff but I didn’t sweat the large stuff. Go figure!! Glad I rent at a time like this!!!

so true, but actually don’t sweat the big stuff either, trust in the universe, its just so friendly!!!

People are always telling me that the reason I have social anxiety is because I overanalyze things that really were never meant to be important. I think that I’m doing the right thing by taking people seriously- if someone says “You don’t know what you’re doing today” then instead of thinking “well, maybe they are in a bad mood, and they are just judging quickly because i made one tiny mistake”, I think… “oh my god they are right. I hate being here and since I don’t know what I’m doing I think I’ll go do something else that I’m good at.” This is basically how I came to quit my job. I feel that I need help but I want to overcome this myself, because I know once I get over the hump it will be simple.

I keep on doing this, when I can’t feel any anger about the bigger, more important issues in life. It feels somehow immature of me, or fearful?