Take better care of my friends

I just need to be more punctual with the things that I do. When you’re taking care of someone, you can’t say, “I’ll do that for you after I do (x).” You should say, “Okay, I’ll do it.”, get up, and do it.

I’m trying to find the balance between taking good care of my friends and taking care of my/our families’ needs. I don’t know where it is. Today I got invited to meet some girls for a hike but I said no. The hike is a solid 45 minutes away and I just cannot afford the gas to do that so many times in a week. I am meeting them for a movie the next night but that is over an hour away. It is so frustrating that people aren’t more flexible to meet halfway.

Yesterday, my friend cancelled because I asked her to meet me halfway. She said, “I’d have to drive like half an hour!” Every time we’ve gotten together I have driven 45 minutes or an hour.

I guess there comes a point where I feel like I would like friends to give a little to me too. Maybe beggars can’t be choosers but there has got to be a middle ground.

I think I appear to be flaky because I so often cancel plans due to weather (we live in the mountains). Must prioritize getting a 4 wheel drive car so I am no longer stuck and have to bail on plans.

I am really working on this goal and can see improvements little by little. I went to a church banquet for my friend’s mission trip (which isn’t really my type of event usually) just to be supportive of her with this goal in mind.

I have also been working really hard on trying to make plans with friends.

My one friend’s daughter has to get her tonsils out so I wrote it on my calendar. I find this to be a good way to remember to call them on that day. Still need to continue working on this though.

Had a friend over for lunch today.

I just organized an evening out. Finally I am the one who is putting the effort out. It’s about time!

I really wanted to go to a vegetarian restaurant for lunch with my friend today but she didn’t want to drive that far so I compromised to meet her halfway at a bagel place that serves salads. That will work.

Invited a friend to lunch today. She accepted. Yay!

Made plans for last night and then got hit with a decent snowstorm. My friend was really looking forward to the dinner so I made it happen. I had so much fun and didn’t feel like a flake.