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10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

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mais132 4 months ago

Regidor 6 months ago

Stubborn DreamerThere will be...

Three more expensive tests are left (in addition to today’s), each 3 weeks, and each of them could potentially end with another £1500 Ig procedure, if the numbers are one unit beyond norm.
Expensive blood-thinning injections will continue till October.
Overall costs will go down a bit soon, though.

Well, at least I know how much longer I’ll have to endure these costs which are so frustratingly eating away at the savings of my life and my inheritance… Sometimes you think: you work entire month to be left with a few hundred pounds after all fucking bills, and one costly procedure (which can get delivered once in three weeks!) takes away the meticulous savings from 2 months of your life.

I really hope one day I’ll get so much money I won’t have to think about daily expenses at all. And they will grow rather than thaw. And I will finally be glad and relaxed. 7 months ago

Stubborn DreamerAnother fight

... over the yet another test and costly procedure, obviously I am supposed to just take another £2K on the chin and never mention it.

The Other Side again shouted lots of abuse, dropped the phone and spewed accusations about me being greedy and just caring about myself, my money, my gadgets and my cars, but not her and the baby. (Complete rubbish not worth mentioning, not a single true word, that’s how the hormones talk; and no, I’m not a misogynist, just despite the fact I totally understand where this shit comes from, it still hurts a lot to hear not a single grateful word.)

My world loves me though, I received a message from my former colleague which brought my degree of pissoffia significantly down. Lovely P., bless you, your caring message untangled this hard knot in my belly and put a smile on my face. 7 months ago

lilico 7 months ago

Jen Duggan 7 months ago

Stubborn DreamerCan't complain to anyone... (Do not enter! Vicious Rant!)

... but the test (£380) said killer cells were at the high again, so we need a drip (£1590).

Just as I’ve relaxed a bit. Another £2K!

Now it’s not the matter of whether we cross £10K, but we’re really, seriously approaching £20K total bill! And it’s not over, far from that, 4 more weeks if no more, they even can decide we need closer supervision.

Why the HELL, these bills just keep coming and coming… so frustrating.
And they just smile and swipe your credit card again with those two-, three-, four- digits figures. And again. And again.
And you are not supposed to complain because the baby is more precious to us than any money.
And the Wife is going potty if you even that much as mention money.

But, do I bloody print money?!
Nope, I’m squandering my inheritance.
And I will have to work for them later for already two years extra, still paying off mortgage which could’ve been paid off with these money.
And yes this is what I’m frustrated about.
And yes I am fricking talking about it.

But there’s little point as all I can do is to swipe, swipe, swipe this credit card. And pay, pay, pay.

And hope it all turns well for the Wife and the baby who is already living its life there and is so much awaited here. So hope at least these money won’t be spent in vain.

That’s it, rant over. 8 months ago

Phil Fox 11 months ago

Stubborn Dreamer2nd Scan. The One!

I could see the little one’s heartbeat! It’s an actual wonder, new life coming out of the darkness.
They want to see us next week (unless bloods imply otherwise). Could be just the hectic tempo of being constantly monitored, is now subsiding. Will know later today how exactly it does.

The Clinic normally monitors you until 12th week, and then consider their deed done and pass you to antenatal services of your GP. I’m very glad we’ve changed to a different GP clinic right before, and now are in a (seemingly :)) much better one, used to deal with well-off villagers rather than council estate inhabitants. Makes all the difference.

There will be time to get a final bill to understand how much financial damage the course has done, but I won’t be pitying the money. It could be our baby here, with all those odds working against us! After all, God gave us both inheritances to keep us away from pecuniary worries at one of the most trying times of our life. Hopefully they will be put to best use.

So we’re just waiting now and eating, doing injections, monitoring… onwards, onwards. Let’s try to enjoy the process as well :) 8 months ago

Stubborn Dreamer1st scan (not the Big One yet)

This one today was to exclude ectopic P.
Well, it’s where it should be! One can see it! :)

There will be another scan somewhat later down the road, where they let you hear the heartbeat. But now it’s officially confirmed, there is one present in the proper place!

We can relax a bit now.
And, of course,
Keep fingers crossed. 8 months ago

Stubborn DreamerCautious "Yess!"

We’ve been through more hormonal misbalance, shouting abuse, refusing to go for treatments, or suddenly quite the opposite.

Continuing to go to London each or every second day.

Eventually we’ve had the E. transferred, and so far (help us God!) the meter keeps growing well… just recently the nurse has used the P-word. At one point it seemed that the meter had stalled, but it recovered, and I must say it was one of the most welcome events of latest months!

Of course, there’s still a long way ahead, all positive and negative odds, anything can really happen, but for now – this has happened! Sending it lots of love and health now. 8 months ago

FloconLaurie was born on December 6, 2013.

We love her to bits and could not be happier. 9 months ago

Flocon 23 months ago

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thechaos 9 months ago

Christin3lots of discussions!

It’s been absolutely determined that this is next on both J’s and my list in life. Sure, we have our own goals, career-oriented and otherwise, but this one is our current focus. We really don’t have any money, and we don’t have any space, and while that’s not a huge concern in the beginning, we still probably won’t have made progress towards those things a few months from now. So the answer, at this specific moment, is still no. But it’s a priority.
Also, my mom has gotten to the point where she’s making barbed pregnancy remarks (what, you’re still hungry? Is there something you’re not telling us?? mwahahaha pats tummy) at my SISTER, who is younger than me and still in med school, so yeah…I think we’re all kind of vastly looking forward to this!! 9 months ago

Tjenixen 9 months ago

Stubborn DreamerOne Goal Precludes Another

With charges like these, all my monthly salary was drained from my account in 2 days. £6,000+ new charges for a week. £36 parking fees, £12 congestion charge and new tank of petrol, wife’s endless creams, treatments and £120+ for her meds don’t really help to kill the mortgage.

I stopped grieving for money, I think this is a sort of test; while you ‘re grieving for them, you don’t get to hold them. I just continue to manage my accounts well automatically, even though killing of mortgage has just moved years apart. Or may be not, there must be a way in store for me.

You thought that was easy? ;-)
She’s now receiving intensive treatments, daily blood tests (£60-120 a day), 3-4 scans a week, and now it’s 2 times blood test a day since tomorrow! :) She must stay in the city between the tests as she must be within 30 mins. from clinic.

Every day wake up at 4:20AM, bringing her to the clinic, then go to work as usual and go to bed at 12-1AM. I got used to it.

(Yes, the little crying boy in me still says: “Bu’ other people, others just fuck once and that’s all they need to do! pleasure added for free! why am Iiiii…”. I kick his backside. Complaining doesn’t get you anywhere, only makes things worse—always.

Onwards! The end is nigh. This will pass, too. 9 months ago

Jesspbrown91 10 months ago

spr1313 10 months ago

Stubborn DreamerLet the (...) Times Roll

Today we had an introduction for the IVF process.
Basically it means, LOTS of injections into her belly, every day being on the phone, coming there for tests at 7:30AM (which means get up at 4:30AM), and sometimes at 6:30AM (up at 3:30AM, first train really).
Oh, and pay pay pay through the nose (1 position in blood test = £30, 1 medicine = £80, 1 day of travel = £27 or £42, plus taxi back from station, etc.), and continue to work as usual, trying not to lose holiday entitlement and money.
Probably I will have to extend my car loan to obtain some extra money whilst I’m working on dealing with the financial aftermath of this treatment.
But the day will come when I will pay it all through and will deal with these fucking loans and mortgages which piss me off to no avail. 10 months ago

Stubborn DreamerMoving ahead

So far, tests, visits, tests, visits. £2000 or so already down the drain this month. But they are treating her now. She became much calmer now. I always knew these were hormones that deform her character. Hope when she gives birth it will be better.

(But in case it won’t, the results from my another goal, Deal with Abusive People, will be handy). 10 months ago

JasonJohnAnon 10 months ago

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Kelly 11 months ago

Diana99 11 months ago

Christin3if I can't even support myself....

How could I possibly support a child? I feel like I want to have children for selfish reasons; unconditional love, to hear their laughter, see the world again through their eyes, to make them happy and strong and gifted and show them all the beautiful and amazing things of the world so that they in turn can influence and brighten others’ lives and make the world a better place, at least in my corner. But if I can’t support myself, how could I support a child? How could I afford to give and show them the things I want to give them? How could I give them confidence when I have so little in my current situation (besides my strong marriage)? But I feel, if I can’t change the world, perhaps, it is my children who will make a profound difference and in bringing them into the world, I will have made a difference? I don’t know…but indeed, I still want to have a family and give to them what was given to me, and pass things on, if you will… 12 months ago

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