Stop worrying what other people think

Want to continue to self improve myself in this area.

I have struggled with worrying about what people think all my life. One day I was at a Hallmark store and I found this plaque and it says:

People are often unreasonable and self-centered
FORGIVE THEM ANYWAY
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives
BE KIND ANYWAY
If you are honest, people may cheat you
BE HONEST ANYWAY
If you find happiness, people may be jealous
BE HAPPY ANYWAY
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow
DO GOOD ANYWAY
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough
GIVE YOUR BEST ANYWAY
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God
IT WAS NEVER BETWEEN YOU AND THEM ANYWAY
– Mother Teresa

I always try to remember that my heart is in the right place. I do not set out to hurt people deliberately. If they don’t like me, or they don’t like what I do, well they are entitled to their opinion and I cannot change that. All I can do is smile everyday and give the world my best. Really if someone has a problem with that it is their burden and not mine. I have enough of my own burdens to deal with and I am certainly not going to take on someone else’s.

I struggle everyday at my job with what people are thinking of me. It’s just not worth it. I do canine rescue outside of work as a volunteer and I know some people look down their nose at me for it, and I try not to care. I know my heart is in the right place. Maybe they are just jealous because God is not using them for something so wonderful and rewarding.

I have to remind myself I’m human and I am not perfect and therefore I cannot please everyone. I only have to please God.

My boyfriend was recapping for me the things he told his family about myself (that I have yet to meet) while he is visiting them for Thanksgiving. He decided to only tell them the dorkiest things about me. These things are still very much a part of me and typically I am not ashamed of them. But I can’t help but be really embaressed. I got kinda mad at him like “why did you portray me in that light?” but that was just covering up the real issue of being ok with myself. I definately have progress to make… but simply venting in this entry made me feel a lot better.

recently people havent really said anything
so i dont treally have anything to take in
its just mean normal
but im hoping when people do say things i just ignore them and pretend it doesnt happen
if u ignore the things people are sayin to try and put u down
it l;ooks like u didn hear them, u dont care, and they just get more annoyed
ur the winner of that :)

umm things are goin g okay. it seems i walk past ppl and look at them kinda lioek what do they think of me ?
i wanna be able to walk past ppl and b proud of whatd theyd see, who they think i am, or who they KNOW I AM. i needa not care what other people think of me, idc if they think im a freak..

im always worrying wat people think of me
im always changing myself for other peoples benefits
when rele i should be who I want to be not some1 else wants
i need to be myself infron of people :)
who cares if they think im a freak they need to learn who i am
theres no pnt pretending to be some1 ur not, coz if u pretend then u will turn into some1 ur not and wats the pnt of being u?
i may walk past people n say to myslef ” i wonder wat they think of me ”, im hopeless with this sort of stuff.
i wanna be myself n not have a worry or care wat others think
its hard tho

i wanna atop worryin about what other people think.
people wioll say something to me and then i will really think about it
i wanna stop and just be myself infront of anyone. no matter how weird people may think i am. I wanna not care about what people say, aand if they dop say something not to worry about it.
x

if you worry about other people criticising you- you feel like you are always in the spot light- and you are trying to please other people (most of whom- probably don’t care) so do yourself a favor and do things for you- do what YOU want to do and do things with confidence- no hesitations with all you’ve got and don’t worry what someone will say or do (or think!):-) and have a nice day and remember to smile!

I generally dont care that much but I want to not care at all because sometimes I am very affected

As this is a goal to be achieved one day at the time (possibly with the help of EFT, TAT & some heavy journalling or cool websites/forums) & never really ‘finally achieved’... I am letting it go from the list. But it remains as a reminder to really do so!!