talk less

People never think i hear them because i talk so much…. Or i get around snobs and speak my mind and get ignored constantly. I just want to learn to be quiet.. so that no one looks down on me for speaking my mind, or gets offended thinking i don’t listen enough.. also it may end the lectures my boss keeps giving me.

I have a blabber mouth, or what Ruby Wax once reffered to in a TV commercial as ‘verbal diarrhea’. I find myself saying hurtful things, things I regret, lying (or exaggerating), presuming aloud, or giving away too much. Often I KNOW I should shut up, but I just keep yapping! I’d like it if I could comfortably sit in silence, or not raise an opinion, or not argue back.

I guess I will focus on this again. Another benefit: it is a great way to keep people out of your personal business. Everyone seems happy to talk about themselves while I just smile and nod.

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I’ve talked my way out of great relationships and friendships, a few jobs and god knows what else. My problem is definitely insecurity based, coming from the fact that being a talker/entertainer/teacher got me out of a lot of trouble when I was a kid. So now all my sense of self-worth is tied to my ability to “enlighten” others. Yeah right.
I am drowning in my own self-importance, and as I get older, I am doing more damage than ever to the people around me with my relentlessness. I ALWAYS feel that I NEED to make that point, NEED to make sure I am understood, NEED to share that information.
I’ve always hated myself for it, but now I realize how much harm I’ve been doing to those around me to.
It’s been haunting me and I often find myself thinking that throat cancer would be an appropriate fix. sigh.
How do you quit an addiction to self-importance?

I have this really intense anxiety disorder… I have a lot of intense issues, haha. There, that’s out there.

So, one of the issues with this anxiety is that I frequently start talking… And keep talking… And talking… And talking… To the point where I get so worked up to the point of panic attacks.
It’s actually dangerous for me to talk too much, haha.

So, I’d love to just talk less. Just keep my mouth shut. Not say everything in my head, lol.

I would love help with this, or at least to know that I’m not the only one.

-Carrie.

i talk a lot
i’m usually cocky and confident when i talk

yet that’s not me

i should listen more
be more humble when i talk
smile more when i’m listening

I am too old to be blurting out the answers. I did it in grade school. now i am in a higher education environment and still like to be the one who answers first. I like to give my input but it is not always right. I keep getting mad at myself for not just keeping quiet and only answer when asked. I really need to stop. I KNOW that it makes you look insecure as well.
In general, I talk too much (although there are a bunch of people I know who are worse) and I really want to be a bit more reserved or at least make fewer comments. I believe I just need to think more before I speak.

LOL
yes. i need 2 do this.
make words count for something

This is going great. Very benificial. I think I am talking at least 30-40-% less than before. But my communication has improved. Most of my talk was blather. Still improving on this one.

I used to go by the rule: don’t say it, do it. If you do something, you will definitely do it; if you just say it, there is still a chance that you will not do it. I have been doing -0% of the things I need to do, just wasting my time ignoring responsibiities… life is so complicated.

talking is like having a baby – it takes time for the baby to grow; if you speak too soon or aren’t in a healthy environment when it is time to give birth, your baby just might die.