talk less

in the last couple of months, this has actually been working! I reduced my talking-time on the telephone which gives me more time to do stuff I like…it’s funny, I am more of an introvert than I thought:)
now, I want to try to reduce my talking time when I am around people. When I am with people I constantly joke around and often I am the one who talks the most…I am a little like chandler in friends who always jokes around when he is uncomfortable ;)...I don’t really see it as a bad thing, it’s just that it doens’t reflect my real character and I don’t like to give people the impression that I am a loud comedian instead of a nice girl who actually does take stuff seriously!

People never think i hear them because i talk so much…. Or i get around snobs and speak my mind and get ignored constantly. I just want to learn to be quiet.. so that no one looks down on me for speaking my mind, or gets offended thinking i don’t listen enough.. also it may end the lectures my boss keeps giving me.

I have a blabber mouth, or what Ruby Wax once reffered to in a TV commercial as ‘verbal diarrhea’. I find myself saying hurtful things, things I regret, lying (or exaggerating), presuming aloud, or giving away too much. Often I KNOW I should shut up, but I just keep yapping! I’d like it if I could comfortably sit in silence, or not raise an opinion, or not argue back.

I guess I will focus on this again. Another benefit: it is a great way to keep people out of your personal business. Everyone seems happy to talk about themselves while I just smile and nod.

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I’ve talked my way out of great relationships and friendships, a few jobs and god knows what else. My problem is definitely insecurity based, coming from the fact that being a talker/entertainer/teacher got me out of a lot of trouble when I was a kid. So now all my sense of self-worth is tied to my ability to “enlighten” others. Yeah right.
I am drowning in my own self-importance, and as I get older, I am doing more damage than ever to the people around me with my relentlessness. I ALWAYS feel that I NEED to make that point, NEED to make sure I am understood, NEED to share that information.
I’ve always hated myself for it, but now I realize how much harm I’ve been doing to those around me to.
It’s been haunting me and I often find myself thinking that throat cancer would be an appropriate fix. sigh.
How do you quit an addiction to self-importance?

I have this really intense anxiety disorder… I have a lot of intense issues, haha. There, that’s out there.

So, one of the issues with this anxiety is that I frequently start talking… And keep talking… And talking… And talking… To the point where I get so worked up to the point of panic attacks.
It’s actually dangerous for me to talk too much, haha.

So, I’d love to just talk less. Just keep my mouth shut. Not say everything in my head, lol.

I would love help with this, or at least to know that I’m not the only one.

-Carrie.

I got into a really bad argument with one of my best friends recently. The stuff we fought about was really silly. Now, we don’t talk a lot to each other anymore. The thing is, as much as I feel sorry about our fight, I realized that maybe we just talked to much about things that are not worth being talked about! We analyzed every little thing! Now, I try to actually devide the important from the unimportant stuff before I talk!!!
I tend to talk to much about every topic!

i talk a lot
i’m usually cocky and confident when i talk

yet that’s not me

i should listen more
be more humble when i talk
smile more when i’m listening

I am too old to be blurting out the answers. I did it in grade school. now i am in a higher education environment and still like to be the one who answers first. I like to give my input but it is not always right. I keep getting mad at myself for not just keeping quiet and only answer when asked. I really need to stop. I KNOW that it makes you look insecure as well.
In general, I talk too much (although there are a bunch of people I know who are worse) and I really want to be a bit more reserved or at least make fewer comments. I believe I just need to think more before I speak.

LOL
yes. i need 2 do this.
make words count for something