Throughout our 29 years together I have seen my daughter as generally happy until high school when, like clockwork, she fell under the “spell” of major clinical depression. Depression for an adolescent is a real killer as suicide is the grim reaper riding along with these children. Fortunately, we were able to keep that from happening, but I was never certain that I could keep her going.
Also, it is difficult helping a young daughter who has to watch her mother die from an agonizing, rare, and incurable cancer. Add to that, daughter thought, somewhat correctly, that her mother did not like her, or want her help during this sad time.
Follow that with a continuing relationship with a man who she says she loves, even though he abuses her physically, verbally, emotionally, and spiritually. The latter situation exists today and rather than try to get away from this man she is letting him put a brake on her career, before it ever starts. He has barely worked for the past ten years, went to college and quit at least five times. Now he lives in her apartment on student loans and, until now on my financial aid to my daughter.
I would hope that someday she will see how hurtful all this is to the people who really love her and to herself. The immediate breakup has her worried, but she needs to work to take care of herself and her career.
