let go of my grudges

All of these old grudges I’m holding onto aren’t doing me ay favours! A lot of it’s old silly stuff like snippy comments people made years ago, and some of the grudges are family issues. Keeping all these grudges sure takes a lot of energy, and I’m not even sure how to let them go, but at least I’m willing to.

So the previous cheer also had a comment about grudges. It is clear that holding the grudge hurts me more than the other person. In order to make sure that I am letting go of grudges and not just feeling temporarily peaceful I am going to make a list of grudges or issues with people that I need to let go of. This seems somewhat counterproductive but I need to know what to let go of. Then I can work my way through seeing that maybe things weren’t their fault. I probably contributed more to most of the issues. I can change myself and my outlook but not the past. The only thing we have complete control over is our attitude. I’ll keep trying to improve it.

Uggggggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

ive had a few grudges in my life. one was against a friend who i didnt think of as a friend anymore but i let that go by letting her know. another was, an ex, who made me not trust people, but i forgave him a long time ago, because after all he taught me alot. another has been against my sister, and my mother. my sister because she was always better then me. my mother because she always gave my sister more attention. ive now realized my sister is not better then me at all. she has flaws too. and my mother, well my sister still gets more attention but its ok because i should just deal with it. its gotten better and ive spoken my mind about it, theres nothing more i can do. at least i tried so i can let go.

to hold a grudge than it does to let it go! Wasted energy that could be spent doing something more constructive!

Just let them go.

The ex who broke my heart (in the worst way) after saying he’d be there forever hardly ever creeps into my mind anymore, and I can honestly say that I’m not angry at members of my family for some of the less-than-nice (to put it mildly) things that they did to me. So I really think I have accomplished this goal, which is amazing, becuase I didn’t think it would happen so quickly.

While I have mostly forgiven my parents, I have lots of grudges, most particularly against my ex-boyfriend whom I no longer think about very often, but when I do, my chest still gets tight and I get incredibly angry. I don’t want to make amends or even be friends with him or the others who have wronged me, but I just want to let go of that anger and be happy for the wonderful life I am leading right now.