I have spent most of my life conditioning myself to be “comfortable” alone and to wait for the right person (if that actually exists). I have a long list of qualities and attributes that this “perfect” person would possess. Yet, I’m not sure if would even be humanly possible for one man to have all of these traits, unless of course; he was schizophrenic. At any rate, it has occurred to me that most of my time has been spent searching for the perfect man who seems to fit that fairy tale ending. More accurately, most of my time has been spent hiding behind the unattainable and never even trying to find love. What if my lesson in this life is to learn to give love instead of receive it? What if I dropped my guard and loved another with no fear of being rejected or hurt. Would it be more sad to live a life where no one ever loved you or you never truly loved another? I think I should spend more time focusing on how to wholeheartedly love another human being and somehow I think it would all fall into place. 4 years ago

Maybe I’ve watched too many romantic comedies, or chick flicks in general, but I do believe true love is possible. I believe that 90% of the population disagrees with me and I have heard the argument that all of these movies give people unrealistic views of what love is all about. In my chimerical little world, I seem to inherently realize that my soul mate is in fact floating around the universe somewhere. I refuse to settle! If I don’t have the kind of love that is portrayed in The Notebook, than I would just as soon be single. I often hear that I am too critical or too picky and I should “give the guy a chance.” But you know something, I will give the guy a chance when he is the right one. Maybe I’m wrong and will end up a 45-year-old spinster with 9 cats, but I’m willing to take that chance! 6 years ago

I am convinced that I will instantly know when I meet the love of my life. I can usually tell within minutes anyway, whether or not someone is right for me or vice versa. This is usually done through a process of elimination. You can tell everything you need to know about a person by what they order to drink and what is on their iPod. I have actually been out on a date when the guy orders some fruity drink or a Strawberry Blonde beer, while I’m sitting there drinking a Black & Tan. You get the picture? If you have nothing but hip hop and Madonna’s Greatest Hits on your most frequently played, we’re probably not a match. If you own more hair products or pastel clothing than I do, also a good indicator! 6 years ago

Seriously people, I hate this question! It would be no different than asking an obese person, “Why are you fat?” Coming from the Midwest, where God forbid I wasn’t married 5 years ago with 3 children, I am considered a mutant. How ridiculous! It is actually more socially acceptable to be a divorcee than a woman who is almost 30 and not married. From now on when people ask me that question I’m going to respond, “Well, there’s obviously something wrong with me.” This is, after all, exactly what they’re thinking. I’m going to just skip a step and bring it to the forefront! 6 years ago

I never want to be at any one else’s mercy financially. My mother raised us to always be able to take care of ourselves and never be in a situation where we were trapped. I refuse to ever have a husband give me an “allowance.” I want to marry for all of the right reasons, not for money! I have nothing against stay-at-home mothers, it is truly the most difficult job in the world. However, I do not believe I could do it. Even if it was just a menial part-time job, I would have to do something. Also, it is so imperative to keep a strong sense of self and not get lost in your spouse’s life. I hope I remember this if and when I get swept off my feet! 6 years ago

This is exactly my point. If this crazy bastard found someone that he could love, cherish, and accept; and more importantly have the feelings reciprocated, then there you go! Seriously people, do not change yourself for someone else. Find someone who loves you just the way you are. Quirks and all! 6 years ago