Stop fighting with my mom

we aren’t constantly fighting, but when we do, its aweful. i don’t tell my mom much about bad grades, cause if i do, we don’t talk for weeks until my dad finally has enough. grades are the only thing we fight about. i’m smart, but not as smart as she wants me to be. so if i don’t do as well on something as she wants me to have, then we scream and yell. im constanty trying to please her, and since i am if i do something that doesnt, thant she gets wiicked upset. i’m just sick of it.

My problem is my mom and i fight over everything. Dinner, clothes, boyfriends, money, EVERYTHING. Ill try to just walk away from the fight, but then she follows me and gets even more upset. I try to stay calm, but when you have a woman yelling at you for no apparent reason, it can get pretty tricky. Us fighting as put a lot of unneeded stress on me. I understand that shes under a lot of stress too from her job and money, etc., but that’s no reason for her to take it out on me. Ugh. It’ll eventually pass, but I’d like to help along this phase as fast as i can…

I just remember that I don’t like it when she talks to me like I’m stupid. Like telling me how to do things even when I’ve done it so many times and she knows it. Sometimes, I just feel she criticizes me all the time and unnecessarily. I just want her to see me as an adult and to have a bit more faith in my abilities, in what I’m capable of. Sometimes I feel like I’m never going to be good enough. It’s so funny when sometimes I cook something and everyone else already think it tastes great and she is the ONLY ONE with something bad to say about it. Why is she like this? Does it mean she loves me so much that’s why she seems to never appreciate my effort? Does it mean she really cares about me if she’s always pointing out what I can do better? Am I missing something here? Should I not expect anything else from her than what she is already giving???? If anyone can read this, I’d appreciate your thoughts…

I think writing here is quite therapeutic. I can unload a lot of the stuff in my chest, things I cannot tell her. By doing this, I can sort my feelings out and learn how to deal with this problem. I really want to have more self-control and not lose my patience with her so fast or at least be able to not lose my patience at all with her even at times when she is difficult to deal with. That is my goal.

I just lose my patience with her so easily and I just feel so mad at her sometimes. Partly because I feel that she doesn’t appreciate me, like all the effort I’m giving, she doesn’t seem to notice. I’m the only one that has helped her but she seems more concerned about my sister. Asking her to move on with me to help me with my baby is a wrong decision, I knew we’d drive each other crazy and it’s happening again.

I just really want to get over all my bad feelings towards her and just not be so mad at her anymore. I’m not asking anymore that we become really close but I just wish a bit more normalcy in our relationship. I just want to have days that we can talk w/o it turning into one silly argument after another.

I just want us to stop fighting. I’m so sick of it already.

stop my parents fight

God please stop my mothers and fathers serious fight.Do not kill anybody from my family just stop my parents fight earliest as possible.I feel ashamed that I did not do anything.My parents are my life.stop this fight.Arsh

Ok so I’m gonna take a stab at this. I just turned 14 yesterday and for a lil more than 2 weeks my mom hasn’t said more than 10 words to me. My entire life I’ve always been the ‘perfect little angel’ I was well behaved, perfect grades, and got a long great with my family. It was mainly because when my sister was in High school she and my mom had a lot of angst between them and never talked to each other. Well when my sister graduated they made up and have a pretty good relationship. But now I just started high school this year and it seems like everything I do is a mistake to her. Last year me and my best friend walked to the local grocerystore to by a present for a friend’s bday before I went off to babysit, my mom found out and thought I was sneaking out every week and I was grounded for the first time in my life….FOR 4 MONTHS. & I’m not allowed to talk to my best friend anymore b/c ‘she influences me to make bad choices’ Ever since that I’ve been trying to be the perfect child again, but I’m growing up and they’re not giving me any freedom, but they are giving me WAYY too much responsibility. My brother told me to go do something and then I got in trouble for it with my mom and now she hasn’t talked to me in over 2 weeks. My sister says it’s because even though she’s not that pissed off about the thing with my bro, but she keeps finding little mistakes that I made and keeps getting pissed off again..I just don’t know what to do. And the only reason she’s even said a few words to me was because she told me “Happy 14th Birthday” and a few random things. I’m sorry, that probably didn’t make any sense, but I’m sooo confused right now. How did I go from the perfect lil girl to the angsty screw up when I always do everything for them and mantain perfect grades and I haven’t talked to my best friend in a lil less than a year???

We haven’t been fighting nearly as much since I went off to university. It’s like we both don’t want to make the little time we have together suck by fighting – we’re both just learning to bite down the snappish comments we might otherwise make.

Plus, now I’m on my own, it’s my own business when I do my homework, what classes I go to, how clean my room is… mind, now that it IS my own business, I seem to procrastinate and skip less, and clean my room more, so there you go.

Still, I’m not willing to call this goal done unless I can survive a holiday at home with no fighting – so I’ll see you after Christmas I guess.

alrite, so i’m gonna pour my heart out right now. i am 14 years old. i have a boyfriend who i have been with for over a year now. he means the world to me and then some. my mother knows this. but anyways, why i’m here. my mother and i have faught on and off my whole life. and when i run at the mouth she’d slap it and send me to my room. i was okay with it, until it started to hurt a few weeks ago. we are at the point where we can’t even talk to eachother with out getting in a fight, calling eachother names and everything. evntually she gets sick of me and slaps me. the other day though it got bad. she came over and honestly grabbed the side of my head an slammed it on the door frame of my bedroom. that set me off VERY bad. i started hollering and swearing and i couldn’t controll myself. she then grabbed my ears and my hair and was talking so hard she was spitting right in my face. i simply and calmly(surprizingly) said “mom you need o et go of my hair now before i flip out.” she had the nerve to say “I’m not letting go of anything.” so like i sad, i flipped. now i’m not a big girl, what so ever, maybe 110 lbs. she’s like 310. i didn’t do much damage. but i grabbed her hands , ripped them out of my hair, picked up my leg and gave her a shove. i have had enough. then last night she told me i needed to pack the rest of my stuff,cus were in the process of moving out of her boyfriends house(cus they were supposedt be breakin up but then they slept togetherlastnight so idk) and i was like yup, probly. and SHE flipped. i had a friend over too, btw. she brought me into her bedroom and started yelling and i was like mom! all i said was probly! and she hit my arm and i said DON’T TOUCH ME really loud and she hit me again and told me to shut up, and i was like well keep your hands off me! and i had hwrosts and pushed her away with them and let go and she jumps on on her bed, grabs my face with her hand and says you need to shut the fuck up now >:O and i now have finger nail marks on y face. i can’t handle this anymore. i know i have an attitude that needs working on but its not just me.