Wait until marriage

Not 100% sure this is gonna happen anymore actually….probably more like 100% sure its not. not because i don’t want it to happen, but because I’m not sure I can stand to wait anymore….struggling with this sooooo much!! any advice???!!?

I’m waiting for it to sink in.

They find out I am still a virgin at almost 30 years old? And what exactly is wrong with that? Mainstream Media dictates the way so many people think, it’s kinda sad.

What if I never marry and die a virgin?Because I kind of dont want to marry. “You dont know what you are missing” is the claim but I think id rather have the peace of mind that I didnt take something away from someone else or place some kind of emotional scar/burden on them just for some pleasure..

sex looks icky to me anyway :P

Okay, I don’t mean to be wierd… but I have less than 1 month to go before I have achieved this goal!
Sorry, excited :-)

I was kind of … taken advantage of. So losing my V wasn’t my choice. Oh well, it’s over now, so gotta move past this goal!

Guess what?

I’m engaged! I’m so happy and so in love! Do you know what this means? In one short year I will be done waiting! I am officially 4/5 done. I have waited four entire years (+ 18 of being single) to have sex and I only have one year to go. One year!

I get to plan a beautiful wedding with the man I love, and at the end of all the planning we get our reward for patience: No STD’s, no comparisons, no babies, just the beginning of our life together in all ways. I can’t imagine a better start for the two of us.

I know this last year will be hard, but I don’t care. We have dealt with hard, and we can do it and make it to the end. No one thought we could do this, and we are going to. I can’t even begin to explain how proud of my fiance I am. The fact that we were willing to commit ourselves to this goal together makes me feel like we can commit to our marriage entirely.

And do you want to know the best part? I feel like through our relationship, we have inspired others to follow the same path. My boyfriend’s (oops, I mean my fiance’s) little sister is waiting. I don’t know if she’ll wait until marriage but she is waiting for love! That is something in this day and age! And my best friend from college has decided that in her next relationship, she will not have sex until marriage. How great is that?

I have helped some people I am very close to see how great this goal can be. No matter what they choose to do, in the end I feel like they will take sex that much more seriously. I have proved my point the only way I can: practice.

And now I can’t wait for the reward! I am so excited and thrilled to be engaged to this man, he is who I want and I am who he wants. So yay for us, and for all the others who are closing in on this goal! It is possible, and I’ll let you know in a year if it was worth the wait. ;)

I want to obey God and respect my body, my emotional health, my physical health, my future wife, my parents, and the church by abstaining from sex until after I have married.

This has been a goal of mine since I was 13 and I’ve kept it. I think it’s good to get a symbol of your commitment to wait. I have ring. It helps me to remember my commitment and how great my relationship with my husband will be if I wait.

A few interesting quotes that gave me some food for thought:

A silly idea is current that good people do not know what temptation means. This is an obvious lie. Only those who try to resist temptation know how strong it is…. A man who gives in to temptation after five minutes simply does not know what it would have been like an hour later. That is why bad people, in one sense, know very little about badness. They have lived a sheltered life by always giving in.
~C.S. Lewis

You must admit you have self-control before you can use it.
~Carrie Latet

Nothing makes it easier to resist temptation than a proper bringing-up, a sound set of values—and witnesses. ~Franklin P. Jones

Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation leans on the doorbell. ~Author Unknown

so its been about 7 months since we first started talking about this plan, and about 5 since we’ve actually been trying and its going wonderfully :). it really only gets hard when we let it (by making out too much, etc.) and the rest of the time it’s like being with my best friend! so much more of our relationship is talking and connecting now than it used to be and i fall more in love with him everyday. so i just wanted to encourage everyone else to stick with it because its definitely worth it :)