Stop being so clingy

I just relized that its ok. Sure I’m clingy, but I think i’m insecure so it makes me cling to my bf so much. I think I have to relize that I can be on my own and its ok, but also that when I’m in a relationship I chose it and the other person chose it too. I think maybe just trusting him will help a lot. Why worry about my mistake. What is done is done, now I choose to move on and live my life. He’s part of it right now, but I also have another life to live. So does he. So why be clingy? I chose not to be anymore.

Well, I was doing better, but I sort of failed today. I texted him and asked if he wanted to bake a cake with me and he was like no, but thanks. So I was like ok, so I called him and than I was like “dumb” half way through the rings and he picked up and I was thinking “what should i say?, so I was like I just wanted to tell you that the sweatshirt you gave me to wear might smell like dirt so you might want to wash it and sorry if I pushed you to bake a cake with me. Wow! Stupid, is the only word I can think of. Why did I ask him in the first place and why did I call him afterwards?! Oh, well I guess I can only move on and keep trudging. At least I don’t email him so much anymore. This is harder than I thought.

My bf and I have been going out for 3 monthes now and for the last month I have been working really hard not to be clingy. Well, its working I think. We had a little argument before about him not being affectionate and I’m being to clingy. So we’ve comprimsed and we decided we would both do better. So I have stopped emailing him and texting him every single day. I don’t try to give a hug every moment and hold his hand every second were togather. I have hiddden my phone from myself for awhile and I stay off facebook less so I don’t look at his picture. I just have to stop asking him to do things so much though. If he says he can’t, he can’t do something. But otherwise I think I’m doing great.

The only thing that worries me is that he has become more intamate while I have cooled off a bit. It scares me a bit and I dont’ want him to think that he has to be to affectionate all the time. I still want him to be him. But I think right now were trying to find a happy medium and eventually it will all level off.

I love my husband with all my heart, and he loves me just as much, but there are certain things we do that drive each other nuts. We never stay mad at each other for very long, but I really want to go to some counseling classes before it really starts to affect our relationship. Learning how to communicate better has never hurt anyone, I think.

I’ve had a boyfriend for just over 2 years now.. and I know that I’m annoying, I just don’t know how to stop it. I want to go out with my friends and not miss him. I feel like I’m nuts, I know we need time to ourselves with our own friends.. I just don’t really have any.