Are there any programs or online support groups or something that can assist me in this? 11 months ago
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Sometimes, I catch myself making unfair assumptions about women who are conventionally beautiful. I saw this woman the other day at the grocery store – blonde, gorgeous healthy tan, beautiful skin, petite and slim, in fantastic shape, looking fabulous just wearing her shorts and tank top with her hair up. While admiring her, I also caught myself assuming that she must be obsessed with working out, really superficial and judgemental about other women’s bodies and style. When I accidentally knocked over a display – embarassing but no damage done – she was the first to ask whether I was OK or needed help. I realized that I often make really stupid and biased judgements about women that I envy, while assuming that THEY are the ones who are mean-spirited. It’s not true. I have known a lot of gorgeous girls who are good friends, helpful and who don’t care nearly as much about appearances as I do. It’s just something they are secure in, so they don’t think about it as much. It’s kind of like intelligence: I know I am smart. I have always been told I am and I have the education that built it up and the achievements to reinforce that knowledge. I don’t think about it often but never feel insecure about it, but I know some people think I judge them for not being as smart, when most of the time, I don’t. I’m too busy trying to work on areas that I feel less secure in, like my body, health and appearance. 15 months ago
That’s deep! Jealousy is a natural characteristic. Setting your goals and believing in yourself, hence, putting yourself first, is always a helpful way to balance your feelings with jealousy and building self-confidence. 16 months ago
I have found myself recently struggling with jealousy issues.
I am currently in a long distance relationship and have recently found myself tied in knots about things I have come up with in my own mind.
My boyfriend loves me and I know that he would never cheat on me or anything to that extent but I am finding it difficult to control my wondering thoughts…
I am hoping that by making this a goal I can be more aware of it in my daily life and realize how silly it all is. 18 months ago
I’ve been in a relationship for over 2 years now, my jealousy has sky rocketed from no prob to everyone is a potential threat.
I don’t like it, It’s not who I am.
I trust my loved one, and by no means do I own him, he is and will always be free to do whatever his heart so desires.
I know I’m just afraid to lose him, and I also know that I never truly will no matter what, but…
It’s a feeling I can’t quite control. 18 months ago
Good: I wished a colleague the best for a year of teaching in France – that I really wanted!!! – and meant it. Since letting go of the gnawing feeling of envy, I have had much better interactions with her and feel more at peace with myself.
Bad: Almost didn’t meet a prospective student in our program because I was envious of her impressive CV. So embarassing to admit, but true. I did get over it though, and met her, and was welcoming, and the feeling went away. 20 months ago