speak up for myself

I want to speak up for myself. Don’t be a doormat, pushover.

There was a battle of wills between me and my so called Best frnd…who always used to under estimate me….who always used to give me his unwanted advices…and i always felt like an idiot!!!! It was really difficult for me to speak up for myself all this time…cos i thought he might think i’m not being nice and blah blah blah!!

But it was jus this Monday, wen i finally gave everything up to speak up for myself…and prove myself right! I didn’t want to fight about who’s right…i was only speaking for myself!!

and guess what…he couldn’t take it…….It was like a “king” was being questioned by his subjects….(what an ASS!!!)

What kind of person, do u think tries to demean his frnds????
Is it right to call that person ur best frnd who does not respect your point of view???

It came to me as a shock Wen i realized that he has given up on our frndship since that very day…..the day i spoke up for myself to him…!!

But i guess Big revolutions come with, Huge Sacrifices… Lollzz

For a few days my heart was grieving for the loss….But, now i feel what’s the use of the person who has no respect of ur views?? what’s the use of that person calling ur frnd wen he under-estimates u 24*7 …

At least i got rid of one CONTROL FREAK !!!

This is a huge step…and I won’t let anyone Do that to mee again!!!!!

This is one I will say I have done because I have done more than once now, but something I am going to continue to do. I can not even begin to explain how proud I am to say I am now speaking up for myself. Coming from someone who NEVER used to say much of anything, being able to say what I think and say when I think someone is treating me unfairly is increadible. And, I love it! As I said, I will continue to do this.

It’s Like at times people say something on my face that makes me look like an idiot…and just be’cuz i’m too cautious not to hurt them, i don’t speak up for myself!! My Best friend was really upset when she realized that i just let someone make a fool outta me :P :P ..So she keeps pushing me to stand up and speak for myself…

Sometimes, i do feel like a doormat…cus i’m too sweet too hurt ppl(m not boasting, that’s what ma frnd says!!)

But now i want to put an end to it…as modestly as possible!!(as i hate bein sarcastic all the time!) Wish me luck!!

Because i can only do it around certain people. Everyone else..i usually i get nervous around.

I am always trying to please everyone here at work. I am a teacher and tech person at an Elementary School. People are always asking me for help during my classes. I have no time to think. I need to learn to not answer my phone.

Really successful at work with this goal. And guess what? It was almost painless!

Now, I’m trying to make it a habit.

Speaking your mind is one of the best skills you can learn. What it’s really all about is, being confident enough to realize that you deserve just as good treatment as anybody else. Plus, knowing how to demand good treatment.

Do you worry that if you say what you feel, you could hurt someone’s feelings? That’s sweet, but remember, being nice doesn’t mean being a doormat. Everyone has a right to her own feelings about situations and subjects – and that includes you!

You can learn to speak up confidently by copying others who seem self-assured. Notice how they express themselves and pick up their moves. Your role model for this might be a confident friend, a person you admire, or even a celebrity who speaks out in a way you’d like to imitate. You can rehearse your “speaking up” skills with good friends or a family member, or even in front of a mirror. With practice, you can learn to appear more confident.

Remember, it’s your life! You’ve got to stand up for what you believe in. Don’t let anyone make you feel like your opinions don’t matter. Keep on telling yourself that you are entitled to have your own opinions and feelings about things. Learn to be honest, and you will gain respect from others. More importantly, you’ll build self-respect. The more you do it, the easier it will become.

I must not be asking for what I want, or am pessimistic that I will ever get it, or maybe hung up on my need to get it. All I know is I feel withdrawn and angry, especially at those closest to me. Any ideas?
For example, if my housemate won’t keep the place neat, and our “friends” make fun of me for not being a better influence on him, and this has been going on for two years, and he feels attacked when I bring it up and he is too “busy” to commit to cleaning up (even 10 minutes a day)... should I not assume he doesn’t care about my feelings, won’t do anything about it and deserves my cold shoulder?? He says he is trying, but he also says I should just ignore how the friends make me feel.

I hate it when I let something slip by and then feel horrible about it for so long. I’d rather speak my mind and be criticized for who I am than be faceless and keep it all inside.
Go out with a bang not a whisper.