speak up for myself

Since my last meeting, I had everything prepared and felt good about myself speaking in front of people. But it’s hard to keep up! If I don’t constantly think about speaking up, I go back to the quite me and I feel bad again. Is it only me or everyone? Gotta feel bad to really motivate myself to do the thing that I should do! >”<

I need to remind myself everyday! Speak up for myself!!!

I did more preparation for the meeting I had today. I found out when I know more and understand the topic more, I can speak up a lot more about the issue and my thought. Also, when I didn’t understand an issue or people didn’t interpret my question/thought right, I said it again and made sure people were on the same page.

It made me feel really good. I should keep reminding myself to be more prepared. cheers!

As a Junior developer, I’m always silent in the meeting. Even if I have question or thoughts, I tempt to let it slipped. But I feel bad every time I walk out of a meeting and feel not contribute to the company and myself. This makes me unhappy every time that I feel the need to change it.

I want to be more prepared for the meeting. I want to understand more about the things I’m going to work on. I want to ask more questions if I really don’t understand. I want to speak up more in the meeting. I want other people to see me!

My strategies for starting up this:
1. get more familiar with things
2. ask questions even if they sound stupid or not-so-nice people don’t like to answer it.
3. come up with different scenario in more cases and think how I want to resolve it.
4. think what tasks I want to do in each project and speak up.
5. try to take different tasks each time to grow my experience
6. be flexible, go with the flow.

This one is my new years resolution and its going well so far. I’m usually the kind of person to just do something rather than argue and it which therfor makes me a door mat. In work I usually try to get everything done even though there is a “team” and it should be a team effort. So I’ve to one side, I’ve put my foot down several times now and said ‘I’m not doing that,I’m doing this’. My friend even said she was proud of me, start as I mean to go on, dont do eerything like you always do, people will be surprised when they see you not doing what you usually do and so they will make more of an effort to help because at the end of night they will want to go home to’. ~
I’m not 100% upto speaking up for myself but its coming.
Anniex

Told a certain family member how much I disaproved of their actions and actually felt better for getting them out in the open. Vocalising my view also made me realise just how unfair the situation is and has led me to take action after all this time.

I hate conflict so I tend to shut up if I don’t agree with something and just avoid it at all costs. The world won’t end if I give my opinion as long as I believe in what I’m saying there is no need to feel ashamed. People tend to think I don’t care about things but it’s just that I sdon’t vocalise my passions. Time for the world to know what I want.

I want to speak up for myself. Don’t be a doormat, pushover.

There was a battle of wills between me and my so called Best frnd…who always used to under estimate me….who always used to give me his unwanted advices…and i always felt like an idiot!!!! It was really difficult for me to speak up for myself all this time…cos i thought he might think i’m not being nice and blah blah blah!!

But it was jus this Monday, wen i finally gave everything up to speak up for myself…and prove myself right! I didn’t want to fight about who’s right…i was only speaking for myself!!

and guess what…he couldn’t take it…….It was like a “king” was being questioned by his subjects….(what an ASS!!!)

What kind of person, do u think tries to demean his frnds????
Is it right to call that person ur best frnd who does not respect your point of view???

It came to me as a shock Wen i realized that he has given up on our frndship since that very day…..the day i spoke up for myself to him…!!

But i guess Big revolutions come with, Huge Sacrifices… Lollzz

For a few days my heart was grieving for the loss….But, now i feel what’s the use of the person who has no respect of ur views?? what’s the use of that person calling ur frnd wen he under-estimates u 24*7 …

At least i got rid of one CONTROL FREAK !!!

This is a huge step…and I won’t let anyone Do that to mee again!!!!!

This is one I will say I have done because I have done more than once now, but something I am going to continue to do. I can not even begin to explain how proud I am to say I am now speaking up for myself. Coming from someone who NEVER used to say much of anything, being able to say what I think and say when I think someone is treating me unfairly is increadible. And, I love it! As I said, I will continue to do this.

It’s Like at times people say something on my face that makes me look like an idiot…and just be’cuz i’m too cautious not to hurt them, i don’t speak up for myself!! My Best friend was really upset when she realized that i just let someone make a fool outta me :P :P ..So she keeps pushing me to stand up and speak for myself…

Sometimes, i do feel like a doormat…cus i’m too sweet too hurt ppl(m not boasting, that’s what ma frnd says!!)

But now i want to put an end to it…as modestly as possible!!(as i hate bein sarcastic all the time!) Wish me luck!!