Live with positive assumptions - assume the best in everything

Good things will happen to me.
Good things will come my way.
I will make good things happen.
I have confidence that everything will turn out good.
Life will be good.
Life is good.
Life. Good.

“Something good will happen to me.”

and taking liberty with the assumptions one – instead of not making assumptions, I will work to make positive ones. I like the sound of that much better.

Instead of fuming because I’m left out of discussions and decisions (and included in ones that make no sense), I’m just going to keep telling myself that I’m paid extremely well for a proofreader. Looking at it that way, it’s not a bad gig at all… :)

I concsiously challenged myself on this goal today. Bracing myself before opening another client email, I caught myself doing it and told myself to relax and just open the message. It was fine and even filled with possibility. I didn’t get to the place where I was totally filled with positive, but I did question my automatic reaction and let myself relax. It turned out fine.

I need to be closer to this goal, especially on occasions where I’m not happy. Getting into a spat with someone on the phone tonight got me to see that I went into the call with anger and negativity, and I got exactly what I expected. Had I gone in with an open attitude of wanting both parties to walk away happy I would have said things very differently. Even though it got resolved, I’m dissappointed with myself that I didn’t realize the alternative of being positive and helpful. It didn’t even occur to me that this was a possibility. But I see it now and this experience taught me that it’s especially important to have good expectations when I’m angry. The next time I go into a conversation with someone while I’m upset I need to step away from them until I find a positive way to deal with it.

The key to this goal is to always start at the positive.

I’m doing this in small steps. It shows in the way I interpret the events in my life. There’s a shift toward an openess to the positive. Even when I can’t see it, I have the sense that it’s possible that something great could come.

Perhaps when our emotional focus changes, our outward energy changes too. I’m laughing more freely now and I’m beginging to feel myself enjoy life more. And maybe this is the reason that I’ve noticed a lot more people looking at me interestingly. These looks feel like they’re more than the usual glances we give strangers crossing our path, rather, they’re more inquiring.

This afternoon, as I was walking out of my gym, I noticed a well dressed man standing in the lobby. He turned around in slow motion to face me, and then he looked and looked and looked. He even turned around once again to watch me walk out the door. My initial reaction to this was, “Well that was creepy!” Once outside I got a similar look from a woman arriving at the gym. Noticing this, I immediately thought, “There must be something on my face!” I thought about this all the way home and, checking in the mirror, found nothing to gaze about on my face. So it was something else. More positive maybe?

This goal is slowly turning my life around. I can feel myself gravitating toward the positive and drinking it up. It feels good to recognize the positives.

Mentally, I’m getting into the habit of considering all the positive ways of interpreting a situation. Even if I don’t accept the positive views, I know I’m getting better at seeing it. When I feel slighted and start to fall into anger, thinking about other possibilities makes it easier for me to move on.