be more confident around strangers

There are many factors I use to convince myself to be more confident…and a big part of it is a “fake it till I make it” thing because attitude follows behaviour, as we learn from psychology.

For me, speech & debate team really drew me out of my shell and when I just was more confident about my speaking skills, my social skills improved (not a huge huge lot but enough for me to loosen up). I think improving one’s public speaking skills will help a lot :).

And the superficial part is this: I got a new hairstyle, something I’ve never tried or done or successfully managed to recreate after the stylists style my hair and it really really helped. It also helped that it was the first haircut/style that I’ve ever actually really liked. It was a really simple change but it just put a whole new confidence in me. It’s not a makeover or anything because I’m not all of a sudden dressing up and stuff. shrug Whatever works…

I chose this because it’s something I need to work on, really badly. I can be around strangers with my friends and still not talk, AT ALL, and I tell myself these strangers think I’m weird for being so quiet. So i just get more quieter. It’s annoying.