Enjoy being single

Yesterday I went out for coffee with a friend and ended up talking until 7 in the morning. I realize I probably couldn’t have done that if I was in a relationship, well it probably would have caused a fight if I had. I’m beginning to embrace my freedom and I love it!

Living my life how i want it!!! no worries just happy single living WOOO hOOOO!!!!

I think i like being single…but sometimes i am so overwhelmed with feelings of loneliness. I try to stay busy and Im trying new things, like writing letters to deathrow inmates and i bought a bunny. I just want to focus on reinventing myself and learning new things and growing as a person, but I feel that these things require money and right now I dont have a lot of that. Reading is often free, maybe I will put more energy into reading and yoga.

Unlike the past years, this time I’m not down or obssessed about the idea of spent another valentine’s day alone. This time, I’m feeling fine, and motivated to live my life without getting too worried about that little detail. As for today, I’m planning to celebrate that day my way. Catch a movie after work would be a great way to start, and something more later. Let’s see how this day will end… ;-)

Note: Yes, here in Brazil we celebrate that date on June 12th. Totally different from the rest of the world.

I think that being single is not that bad. Most of people always seem desperate to find a mate, his/her significant other. But I’m trying to see that I can be happy, and do things that I’d like to do, even if I don’t have a particular company by my side.

If you’re in love, that’s great, enjoy that to its limit, if you’re not, don’t get so desperate to find company just to feel happy. Go out, see some of your true friends, do unexpected things that you’re not used to do, and you’ll see how surprised you’ll be. And that’s exactly how I want to be on the next months.

When I let go of hating being single and enjoyed my freedom, I met someone awesome.

We are enjoying each others company and I’m in no rush to launch back into a full on relationship…but so far, it’s been wonderful!

So whilst I say I want to enjoy being single, I find myself on online dating sites feeling horrible about being single (and that I can’t find anyone that I click with here) and dreading the idea of being in a relationship with the guys I see on the dating websites. These sites are just depressing! I need to take myself off them!

So, at the end of the day I can’t say that I’m having much fun being single!

I need to take it easy and remind myself that I’m better off on my own than being with someone who I can’t be myself around.

I’m only young. There’s no need to rush into anything.

This isn’t working. I want to be in a loving relationship. I’m so lonely right now. I would feel better if I saw my female friends more often, but as we all work our meet ups are so sporadic. This easter I’m gonna arrange a string of dates with the girls. This will at lead placeate me to an extent I hope.

It’s amazing the difference that simply declaring that you’re going to enjoy being single can make.

In the past week I have been going out to different places, friends parties, etc and people have asked me ‘are you with anyone right now?’ and instead of feeling sorry for myself and like there is something wrong with me that I haven’t settled down with someone yet, I feel really good about being single.

I can do what I want! So this weekend I’m off with a good friend to go on a woman’s retreat. Should be great fun.

Argh. So, I’m single and it was awesome fun for awhile (I felt free again) but over the past week or so, I have had this annoying feeling…like I ‘should’ be with someone, because ‘that’s the thing to do’....’happy people are in partnerships’...blah blah…well, I have to remind myself that it wasn’t actually that long ago when I was in a partnership (with the wrong person) and I felt absolutely miserable :/

So having just typed that out, I already feel better and I figure I might as well enjoy this time ahead of me. I’m going to be kind and gentle to myself. Enjoy my own company. Enjoy the company of good people. I’m also going to try new things.

I’ll let you know how I go :)