Enjoy being single

I thought it was impossible to get over my relationship of 8 years…however, i am getting past it pretty quickly! From the start, I CRIED AND CRIED and i took out my frustration a few times (grin)...and time went by and it got better and better…i stayed busy and learned how to pamper myself even more! But the one thing that really helped was exercise! I am working with a trainer and it works like a charm! not even sure why…..but i am sooo over it…or at least almost.

It took me about 3 months! Unheard of? determination works wonders…

The art of being single.
The Art of Contentment
For most of us, being single will be more of a phase than a final destination. This is the best place to practice the art of contentment. Someday, I’m sure most of us will fall in love and get married. But the thing is, love will always be tested. Someone more handsome,beautiful, more charming, richer, funnier, sweeter would come along. If you have not practiced the art of contentment as a single person, chances are you would be tempted to want that and not cherish your chosen one. Practicing the Art of Contentment as a single person means that you take what life gives you, good or bad, you’re willing to see it through. It means you don’t walk away every time things get tough because it builds in you patience, perseverance, understanding and a hundred different virtues that people in a hurry will never have. Being single means you would find how it feels to be alone thus, allowing you to cherish every moment you spend with your chosen one. The art of contentment means you wouldn’t mind if life had to make you wait for so long to find the love of your life, because you know that the waiting would only make the finding much sweeter.

A Time to Know Yourself Better
Being single is a time of your life when you can get to know yourself better. You can pursue different interest and passions without having to ask another person’s approval. It is a phase when you can keep focus on other things, discover your potentials and talents, and see yourself become more than what you expect to be. Allow yourself to surprise you. Stop wasting precious energy trying to figure out why you’re still romantically unattached. It’s all in the mind. Take the time to go see your friends, spend time with your family, do charity work and you will realize that you are not, and never for one moment, was alone. Try to get to know yourself first before you try to get to know other people. To be truly loved means to be known and accepted for who you are. How do you expect other people to know you and to love you, when you don’t know who and what you really are?

A Choice Between Good and Best
Sometimes the dilemmas we face are not between what is absolutely bad and absolutely good. Sometimes, it’s between good and best. Treat this stage of your life as a phase to evaluate who is good for you and who is best for you. Sometimes, you won’t hear music, or feel magic to know who’s best for you. The heart just knows and it doesn’t need any romantically charged scenario to decide on the matter. Trust in your heart, and trust that time will eventually lead you to, not to the perfect partner, but to the most suitable partner for you. Being single is a phase of life that we need to be thankful for, because being single means our hearts have yet to choose the best one for us.

Take Your Time, The World Will Wait
Being married doesn’t guarantee that it will make your life happy. It doesn’t guarantee anything at all. Sometimes, it only brings two miserable people together only to make their life even more miserable. Without the right intention, the emotional maturity, financial security and of course, unwavering love, you’re better off unattached.

Living Life
Don’t put your life on hold for Mr. and Mrs. Right but don’t let it waste away with Mr.or Mrs. Wrong. Life is about things that you do and happen to you everyday. It’s not about the things that could have happened but never did, or things that you think would happen in the future. Live life now. Live it to the fullest and stop beating yourself up, trying to be perfect on a Saturday night date. Allow life to surprise you with it’s most wonderful blessings.

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I’ve taken the first step – I’m single. Now to enjoy!

Until I went on a date and it’s now brought back huge feelings of not wanting to be alone anymore.

Does this mean I’m not ready to move on yet? Or am I just afraid of being hurt again?

Also: why don’t men come with a manual? That would make my life so much easier.

I just got out of a 7 month relationship. It was quite an unexpected split. My pattern has usually been to jump from relationship to relationship, most of them failing until one sticks for awhile. This is definitely unhealthy. Within the next month I’m moving to a new city and starting at a new school. I see this as a really good time to reassert my individuality and learn how to stand on my own two feet.

I feel like I have too much spare time now that i am single and finding ways to fill it is getting more and more difficult. I am annoyed that my ex continues to try to contact me…I just want to be left alone so that I can get on with my life. I got roommates and I painted 2 rooms in my house. I have been reading like crazy and watching a ton of movies and going out for coffee or drinks with friends, but I’m getting bored of all of that, and I am looking for some new and exciting hobbies.

My extra 10 pounds are more easily shed than your prejudices – w4m

Yes, the extra 10 pounds does sit heavily on my just-over 5 foot frame. I still wear a size 6, at worst an 8, I’ve been exercising every day, and so far I’ve lost 7 pounds of the job-search moving-to-city-where-i-know-no-one living-in-suburbs plus-there’s-another-medical-explanation “15”. I’m happy with myself and my progress, and at this rate I’ll be done by fall and maybe even lighter than I’ve been in 4 years.

Way back after college I used to be heavier, wearing size 12 and technically just over the line to obese, and the reaction of men to a girl they think is too heavy for them is so unmistakable. Great conversation, even flirtation, and then not a second call. For fundamental differences, there’s a second and third date and even maybe a few weeks as people reasonably enough figure out whether their attraction was strong enough to overcome a difference in religion or personality. With weight, though, it’s unmistakable: fantastic rapport, everything goes well, everyone in the coffeeshop knows something fantastic is happening, and then nothing.

Nothing doesn’t always come out of the blue: sometimes there are desperate attempts to pretend it’s no longer a date. “How’s your experience on internet dating been?” he asks, as if we are just friends out to coffee. He apparently has already met everyone in town so is desperate for new dates. I offer my sympathies: I know how it is when you’ve lived in the same place for a long time, and it feels like you’ve dated everyone in town. Here I’m new and have no such problems: I have to keep track of my dates and their phone numbers on a stenographer’s pad.

Conversation exhausted, we walked along amiably. “Well, here’s my Prius,” he says. A trendy car is never just a car. “Great to meet! I had a good time,” I said, smiling enthusiastically, starting to walk away. I don’t want to assume anything, though really I’ve not been used to my enhanced weight and was assuming it had been a fantastic first date to be followed by a second.

“Wait.” He held open his arms. He hugged me and kissed my neck. That night I debated whether to send a short follow-up email. His great uncle, now 93, is an obscure figure my college friend was a huge fan of. This great uncle connection was a great excuse to speak with an old friend for the first time in years. I emailed a 2 sentence email to my date about his great uncle and my friend, ending with a rhetorical question that he didn’t even answer.

These extra 10 pounds sit heavily on my small frame, but they aren’t a permanent disability. After a few more months of daily exercise and being careful with food, I’ll be back in my size 4. Too bad your unwillingness to look past small flaws isn’t so easily lost. Especially since you say you find yourself having such a hard time finding dates.

Yesterday I went out for coffee with a friend and ended up talking until 7 in the morning. I realize I probably couldn’t have done that if I was in a relationship, well it probably would have caused a fight if I had. I’m beginning to embrace my freedom and I love it!

Living my life how i want it!!! no worries just happy single living WOOO hOOOO!!!!

I think i like being single…but sometimes i am so overwhelmed with feelings of loneliness. I try to stay busy and Im trying new things, like writing letters to deathrow inmates and i bought a bunny. I just want to focus on reinventing myself and learning new things and growing as a person, but I feel that these things require money and right now I dont have a lot of that. Reading is often free, maybe I will put more energy into reading and yoga.