tell my friends how much they mean to me

my friends have helped me through so much..even if they don’t realise it.
i want to let them know that whatever happens, whatever i say or do they will always mean the world to me!
<3 them so much

Elizabeth: You are that which made me come to love band. Among other things..

Marien: Your smile makes me think of happier times.

Monique: A blast from the past I’ll never forget.

Lester: You were always sympathetic towards us, even if we weren’t worth it.

Cindy: I never really did get over it.

Rijean: Of course I won’t forget you!

Charlene: No matter how many times you’d need help, I’d help you.

Autumn: You being my friend helped me make so many new ones.

Vincent: You don’t know it, but I’m not kidding about those high fives. They mean more to me than you know.

Marie: You stopped me from becoming something I hated.

Bryan: For my brother’s best friend, you’ve been pretty understanding of my situation. You’re a person I can talk to.

Elisa: I may annoy you, but I think that’s just because you hold an important place.

Melissa: You moved, but I won’t forget you. (Or your slaps. _)

Dana: You were there for me when I needed you. You left when I didn’t.

Samantha: Talking with you always makes me forget my worries.

Andria: You’re ignorance is my laughter. (In a good way.)

Liezel: You’re company reminds me of better times.

Jacob: You may hate me, but I sure as hell don’t blame you.

I don’t think I’ll ever be able to accomplish this goal. But if I ever did, I’d probably use these same exact lines, but in about ten years.

it may sound stupid sometimes to tell your mates you love them and care for them and all. they may laugh at you, but it really does mean a lot to them. some of them prolly just won’t show feelings as well for fear of being vulnerable or something. but i really would rather tell it to them than not tell them at all.

biggest challenge, read entry below. but hey i was able to do it. and i wasnt laughed at!

it’s all good

it takes a massive amount of courage to tell a bloke who’s a really solid mate of yours how much he means to you (unless of course if maybe he’s already dying, you would really want to tell that person everything you would like to say).

but i just did, and we were sober, and we are both straight. and we are both fit and healthy. we just really look after each other.

now beat that!

for my best friends 17th birthday i gave her some gifts and I follow it up with a 3 page letter telling her how much she meant to me and how she has influenced my life, after writing it I was so happy because I was able to reflect on the great times we shared in the past 6 years, its definitely worth doing!!

Friends are essential
People that are there for you through thick and thin, they are the ones that are true friends…..no matter if your feeling blue or down in the dumps they are there to hold your hand and offer a ladder to help you back up.

The people that are there for you, but not when you need them most, are usualy classified as aquintences…..friends but not true friends…..

I recently found a long distance female Friend, she has been there for me, made me feel alive again, and happy with myself, she is defenetly a true friend and my best friend.

And i have been there for her , a shoulder to cry on, someone she can spill her heart out to, and know i will never judge her , this is how i see true friendship

When she is in pain it tears me apart i love her so much and wish i could be there in person to hold her and offer my heart and my strength for her to feel good again, i would do anything for her , without her i feel empty inside , with her i feel i can lift mountains.

when you care about someone tell them! they often don’t really know how much they mean to you based on actions alone so go ahead and do it!!! write them each a letter(nice and long) have a face to face conversation do whatever your comfortable with and tell them exactly how special they are to you.

when i lived away from singapore, i used to write random emails to my friends. this was one of them:

the weather report for the first weekend of june was – the hottest weekend at this time of year since years ago. saturday will be 25 degrees and sunday will be 27 degrees. woo hoo! an outdoor weekend it will be! but london being london… saturday turned out to be very grey, almost at the point of rain. my finicky friend who arranged a bbq, almost cancelled it. fortunately, he didn’t. it did not rain, still the sun was nowhere in sight. in spite of the weather not being it’s best, or what we expected, my first bbq here went very well.

it resulted in 2 things. firstly, it defined the relationship with my new found friends, secondly, it brought back many memories and thoughts of the ones i already have. and that in turn made me feel nostalgic the whole of sunday, and even up to today…. yes, i miss the proximity to my friends.

bbqs are a favourite of mine. they are not regularly organised, which makes them rather special. the guest list is usually short and intimate. it’s such a casual atmosphere, people feel at ease. and the food is always great, with plenty to go round. for me, they have often been the setting where great friendships first bloomed. it happened in australia and it happened many a time in singapore. bbqs were also a favourite at no. 49.

aahhh… no 49…. what ultimately comes to mind is that it is almost a year since i faced the huge and dramatic change in my life. it is a sad thought from that one angle, but on the other, many positive events occured. one of them being that the value of friendship was further enforced. some friendships were lost, some were renewed, some were found, some became stronger. but i think, most importantly, i learnt how to be a better friend and person. i cannot express enough the gratitude i have for those around me who were/are my pillars of support… in all the big and small ways. there is no shame in showing or accepting kindness, i learnt. i’ve always been independent and stubborn with the facade of strength. now, i practice humility. i have developed a deep sense of appreciation for everything and everyone in my life, and for everyday that i wake. much of my strength to strive here is derived from the knowledge that i have my cheerleaders. thank you and i want you to know that i am one of yours.

well… all that from one bbq… till my next bbq…

all my close mates are overseas, and i miss them terribly…

i emailed one mate, and i told her that i miss her and that despite the distance, i’ll always be at her back to support her. She emailed back, and told me that I made her cry. she also misses me heaps and says that she wishes i was there.

I tell mine I love them all the time. At least YOU know that THEY know they are important and appreciated. U never know who’s day u make brighter knowing they are needed and cared about.