stop yelling at my kids

We are having a good week. I know I set the tone in the house and when I am calmer and more patient it certainly makes my children calmer as well.

OK, I just totally went off on my boys.

I get caught up in the moment and I take it out on them. Very unfair.

What can I do?

Count to ten?

I always feel so guilty afterwards.

This would be easier if my children would just stop tipping on their chairs. Seriously. It annoys the living hell out of me. I can tell them 15 times to stop and then of course the chair tips over and they start crying.

Yesterday was not a good day for this goal.

I don’t know if I can ever say that I have completed this goal. I think writing it down and seeing it everytime I login in is a good reminder though. I have certainly improved and hope to continue to improve.

I can honestly say that I am getting better at this. It helps that they are getting older. I am also realizing that it doesn’t help to yell. It is more effective to charge the kids money or some other sort of punitive punishment for their “learning experiences.”

I don’t know what to do. The more I try the more I yell. I just want our life to be normal again. No yelling, no screaming! My kids yell at each other, I find myself just wanting to get away from it all. Yes, they have a dad, but he is always at work and from sunday to sunday they see him about 20% of the week. When he is here he just wants to relax and be quite. I have been trying to inforce and reinforce family rules like no eating any where in the house except the dining room or kitchen bar…but when dad gets here he eats in the living room. They see this and I am back at square one…past it actually. Im’ at negative square one. No one wants to do chores and no one wants to do homework and I’m just tired of it all…Do we need family counceling? if we do we can’t afford it..even with our health insurance..If anyone has some suggestions I would like to hear about it.

So I think my bad habit of yelling at my husband is transfering over to my son. He yells back at us now and some days it feels like we spend the entire day just yelling at each other.

I need to try to find a way to relax in the moment and stay calmer all day – maybe yoga, maybe vodka in my cereal…=)

I have three kids whom I love more then life itself, but I can’t stop yelling at them. I leave a room that I just got done cleaning and come back 2 minutes later and it is trashed I have to fight with them on everything I get no respect from my daughter. If she even gave my half of what she does to her teachers I would be happy. I keep asking myself why do I yell, my mom never yelled at me so why do I??? I can’t answer that but I do know I want to stop it and I want to stop it right now!!!!!

I am trying to be better mom first is so hard bcause i didnt want to have kids yet but i did get prengnant anyways i wanna stop yelling at my son he is just 1 year old but so stubborn and he loves to yell i try to not yell at him but then he try me and yells i am patience then and say shhh dont yell sweety and he does worse so then i give him something he stop and start again to get again what i gave him how i can be smarter than him hahahaha is just so funny he knows better how to do what he wants but then i cant give him more candies or whatever i am giving him and i get mad and yell at him please an advice here i need it so bad!!!