be nicer to my mom

My mom came to visit me yesterday…well, actually, she drove me back to Columbia after a surprise visit so she could help me clean my apartment. It’s about a two-hour drive.
We had such a good conversation in the car.

When we arrived, we ate lunch and then started on the apartment. Normally, we fight when we try to complete a task together, but we didn’t this time. She scrubbed the mold out of my shower and washed my dishes and did all of the other things that I had put off doing. She did it in white shorts, too.

When we were finished, we went to the mall so she could use the Ann Taylor gift cars I gave her for Christmas and Mother’s Day. They were having a big sale, and she tried on lots of things she loved. This is a big feat for my mother, since she usually refuses to try on clothing. I was really glad that she was able to find things she liked.

After some more shopping (she bought me some things to help me organize my apartment better), we went to dinner. We had just planned on appetizers, but by this time we were starving. So we went to a really nice restaurant in town and had wine and dinner and dessert (her favorite—creme brulee!). I convinced her to let me pay for it all, and it felt really good to be able to treat her to something that she doesn’t get very often.

I’m posting this entry to remind myself that I can be nice to my mother and that things are really nice when I am. So often I am just grouchy, and I take things out on her. I want to remember not to do that.

Even after that incredibly long day (she had to drive two hours back home!) she found time to console me after I freaked out about the spiders in my apartment.

What would I do without her?

Very very worth it. Your mom is a very important person, I mean, you wouldn’t even be here if it weren’t for her!
Being nicer to my mom really made me realize that she really is a cool person.

We got into a huge fight today, and even though we both apologized I still feel horrible. I’m going to tell her “I love you” more often, because I realized that I hardly ever do.

And I need to learn to not let what she says get to me because I know she has a mental health problem, and I just need to deal with the fact that my mom is negative and depressed all the time. She always tells me, “This is a disease.” and I get mad at her and tell her cancer is a disease, not being an emotional twelve-year-old spoiled brat in a grown woman’s body! I always hold her attitude against her, and everything she says pisses me off because it is such a sign of how far off the deep end she has gone with the bipolar craziness. I need to forgive her for not being the mother I felt like I needed. We can’t always get what we want, but we get what we need. I guess I needed her, because I think everything happens for a reason. She’s my mom for a reason. I need to learn patience, and to forgive. Then I would treat her better. It’s so hard!

shes AMAZiNGG! but some times she just dosent understand me. but i love her either way its that i have anqer issues. & i take stuff out on her i love my mommy :)

I EFFING LOVE MY MOM!!!!!!!!
what would i do withouht her sometime honestly i dont know!
I think its time i shape up and showing her the gratitude and thanks she deserves, I think ill try and do something nice for her any suggestions?
p.s im broke so im strapped for cash! boo!!!! =P

my mom was asking me por favor and i was all bitter and said no…and called her bitter,
I don’t know what’s wrong w/ me sometimes.
where’s my Jesus action?
I’m going to try and offer to do the favor she needs…
should I not be giving even if I am bitter for another’s wrong-doing?
Should we really hold grudges?
are we not all sinners?
should this deter my giving spirit?
no.!

I try harder to understand my mom
and I submit to her quirky requests
she doesn’t listen to a word you say
and quite frankly I want to be everything she’s not.
making small talk is working out and just getting by and being civil.
I know she just wants things to be calm, so calm they will be.
I still hope one day we can have a better relationship.
but maybe it’s just not in the cards..
I’m so jealous of my bf’s relationship with his mom,
they are very genuine and caring and humble…

I’ve been doing nice things like clean and take care of her plants for her…
I also been saying ‘I love you’ more…
It’s a start. I don’t want to be old w/ kids and be avoiding their grandmother….haha.

was mother’s day, I couldn’t fo and see her unfortunately, but we spent hours on the phone. i think we’re getting closer. Slowly but surly.