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Tell my parents i'm bi


 

How to tell my parents i'm bi by alii

"It was like a big weight had been lifted. "

How I did it: Well, because I havent been getting on too well with my parents lately and I find it really hard to talk to them, I decided to write it in a letter. I felt a lot more relaxed writing it all in a letter, less pressure. I stated that I am bisexual and then explained how important it is to me that they understand why I had to tell them, which was because I felt that we had been drifting apart and I was starting to treat my parents like strangers. We never had time to speak so I felt that a letter was the best way. After I had wrote my name, I added ‘if you do not accept me for who I am because of what I am then I will try and understand but I cannot help the way I am and therefore will not change’ signed it, sealed it and then left it on the dining room table knowing that they would find it in the morning when they got up.

Lessons & tips:

  • Don’t rush to tell them. Tell them in your own time, when you are ready and don’t let anyone force you to tell them.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
  • Find a way that you feel comfortable with telling them. Don’t get anyone to tell them for you because it only makes things complicated.
  • Don’t argue straight after you have told them, don’t forget that they have just found out something that they probably never expected.
  • Don’t tell your parents that you will change because you wont. If they do not come to terms with the fact straight away don’t be surprised but don’t ever think that you have to change for them.


 

Nov 11, 09:28AM PST | 0 comments | 6 cheers


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    ChaseChipman

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    Untitled 4 weeks ago

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