Necessary resources: attend a few of my brother’s sporting events 4 months ago
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ON TIME, Easter cards for my Sister’s children. While these are for her children, I know she and her husband appreciate knowing that I am thinking of the boys. I’m often pretty disorganized, and when you are 9 years old, an Easter card 2 weeks late is just “crazy” so I am very pleased that these will be winging their way to their household this week… 18 months ago
How I did it: My sister and I have always been best friends - even when we're throwing shoes/hairdryers/hangers/various blunt objects at each other. We fight like crazy, but most siblings do. We're three years apart.
When we lived with both of our parents, the tension in the house was always high. Our parents fought, we fought, but at the end of the day we could always go to each other for hugs and kindness. When our parents divorced after 20-something years of marriage, it was devastating. Our parents were the folks that NOBODY ever expected to split, until they did.
Around that time I started dating my boyfriend, Shane. He's The One, I know that, and finding a real man that I can trust and love and that makes me happy, is a blessing unlike any other relationship I've ever had. I moved out, my sister stayed with my mom. For a while my sister went through some tough stuff - a piece of crap boyfriend that our entire family hated, too much partying for anyone who was still in high school, a weed problem. I didn't like the boyfriend, but after voicing my opinion on the matter (and my advice fell on deaf ears, of course) I stopped. It was her life. I didn't want to be the pushy one, everyone else was doing enough of that. And when that relationship finally ended and she was devastated again, I was the first one that was there. I always have been, and I realized that a few months ago.
My sister recently told me that she was proud of me. That she's happy for me - that I found a real man in a sea of useless little boys. And she knows that I want the best for her. My boyfriend is, in a way, helping me set an example for my sister. Don't date douchebags and you'll be happier.
I text and call my sister way more often than I used to, and we have sister days as often as her busy work schedule provides, but I'm more than happy to work around her shifts. Read how I did it… 18 months ago
How I did it: 1. Realize that while I can't change my siblings' actions or personalities (e.g. them not calling, texting, writing, visiting, being anti-social or snappish or judgmental at times), I can change myself, my actions, and my reactions.
I’ve been living in the same area as my sister and brother now since June. I’ve tried to spend time with my brother and his new wife and their baby, but they’re pretty much loners who get easily preoccupied with their own things. I’ve walked downtown on several occasions to stop by and visit my sister where she works, which is nice, and spent lots of time with her kids (whenever she needs a sitter, and some other times). We’ve taken each other out to lunch on a few occasions, too. It’s been good, but I need to keep it up. I’m thinking of moving soon, so I need to find a way to connect that will still work when I’m not in town. For now, I’m going to consider this “done,” since I’ve definitely improved things, but will post more specific goals regarding these relationships in the future. 20 months ago
Obviously I’ll continue to maintain and improve our relationships, but we’re all on a stellar track to continuing it with ease. :) 22 months ago
Thanks to ambler, I realized I needed to add an entry.
My older brother and I have a better relationship probably for a year and half now. I decided to be of help to them in terms of my nephew and niece’s education. I wish I could help them more. I pray that God will help me to help them. 2 years ago