forgive those who have hurt me

I am reading a book by Wm. Paul Young called “The Shack”. It is a very thought proving read. In the book the character has a conversation with God, where God said, when you forgive you release that person. The person then replied, but I cannot forget. God said you will never forget.

realising that holding onto the hurt hurts myself more

i want to forgive pl who hurt me

I extended the “olive branch” to a cousin who I haven’t spoken to in almost 8 years. He wasn’t interested which is funny because when all was said and done I was the one who got hurt. Oh well, again, I tried.

I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to do this, because I tend not to forgive myself, either.

I fuck up, I’m like “wow, you’re a fuck up,” and then I move on with my life.

Not healthy, I know.

Suggestions?!

jepp

My mother was dying and my sister took advantage of her illness (Alzheimers) for financial reasons, which broke my heart that she would do that. My husband of 20 years was having an affair while my mother was sick and dying so instead of being there for me at my most vulnerable time, he was chasing other women…shame on him. I still harbor bad feelings and believe I would feel better if I could let go. I get close, but can’t seem to let go of the hurt and betrayal. I want them to apologize to me, but I don’t think it’s going to happen. So I continue to pray about it.

I moved recently and it seems that everything that could have gone wrong almost all did. But I took it in stride and was understanding and didn’t lose it. Which has really helped me to realize that that’s a great way to approach all things in life.

Sometimes people that hurt us don’t know any better because they were never shown any better. And for those people that are just plain ignorant and do know better…I’m learning to look beyond what harm they may cause me and realize that if this is what it takes for them to feel content in their life then I should feel sorry for them not get angry with them.

I really need to do this. I told my ex fiance that I forgave him but I know that deep down I havent forgave him at all. Now he left me for another girl and how could I forgive him?! But I want to. I am willing to forgive him because I still love him and care about him the most. I cant believe that I still want him back but its the truth. Maybe I need to forgive myself first to forgive him.

is gone now. At the end of my marriage, my husband invited me out to dinner – an upscale italian restaurant with all tables, no booths. Over the appetizer, he said, “I just need five more years.” I didn’t understand. He explained that our son was only 8 and if I would just stay for five more years, he wouldn’t need me so much anymore. He said he only need five things: work, eat, sleep, books to read, and sex. Then he asked me to stay, even if I just pretended. That he “loved” me.
I remember staring at him for a long long time. I remember him asking me to say something, but I was speechless. Finally I managed to say, “You don’t love me. No one who loves me could ask me to do this.”

I forgive him. Actually I thank him – for his unabashed honesty and willingness to say what was true for him. In that moment. We separated months later, taking great care to make things as stable as possible for the family.

That night I remember thinking my heart had literally stopped beating, that my ears had ceased processing sound, that the poles of the earth were pinching in toward one another. But what really happened was a bright illumination when I saw clearly what was necessary and right.