make peace with my past and embrace my future

I discovered through a chance meeting that I have come quite a long way toward forgiving someone. That made me glad!

I’ve decided to change this goal from “let go of the past” to “make peace with my past and embrace my future.” I think that sounds more reasonable.

I don’t think it is possible to let go of the past. It has happened. It has helped shape who I am. I need to make peace with, or accept, what was, and then decide what I want to become in the future, and which direction I want to head. Of course, my plans might not happen. As the Bible says, “A man’s heart deviseth his way: but the LORD directeth his steps.”

How do I attempt this one? I have been going to counseling. I have been praying. I have been journaling. I have been making decisions for a new start in my life, but exactly how do I know when I can check this off my list? Won’t there always be a part of me that has been changed by the past? I can’t erase it. I don’t want to just have a goal on my list that I can’t eventually check off my list. I have to think about how to make this more concrete.

Life is about choices, we can make a decision to focus our attention on whatever we want. It is like using a muscle.
Throughout our day we have good things and bad things happening. We can choose to focus on the good things as much as possible. The bad things ask for our attention, we can give them attention without attaching to them. We can look at our lives as being about peace and drama. We can achieve peace by recognizing when we are in drama, taking a breath and choosing peace.

Oprah had online classes with Echart Tolle, I did these classes and it helped me a lot. You can still access these classes by going to the Oprah site, join then go to Eckhart classes.

I think I sorta did it!! :)

Still not perfect, but ah well…

I wrote the ‘worst scenarios’ & found that in each there was something inspiring & fun & potentially wonderful too!! lol

So this helped a bit.

As for the past, may ‘the peace be with it!!’

As long as I’m living at home, I can’t fully ‘escape’ my past.. But it has certainly helped to recognize why I am who I am… That said, some people think I’m a pretty fine person, & occasionally I think so myself.
So even if my past was a bit weird at times, or I wouldn’t do things the same way again (thank god! I learnt! – hopefully!! :)) I’m comfortable with my past.. not all decisions, but of course some regrets just make a person more interesting, no? :)
& I can relate to a lot of people who have gone or are going through the same… :) & that means something too!! :)

The other night, I made a list of everything I’ve never let go of. Mistakes I’ve made, things that have happened, people I’ve hurt and who’ve hurt me. Then I burned it.

One of the most surprisingly satisfying things I’ve done for myself in a long time.

Okay, so my goal would mainly be ‘Lovingly embrace my future’ (emphasis on lovingly, he he)

Louise Hay says fear of future can make you wear glasses, & hopefully this will help me improve my eyesight too-??!!

Love & fear cannot exist in one place, at the same time, so I hope the love will help vaniquish the fear & such..

I want to keep track of my ‘Daily 5’ accomplishments & gratitudes (& the Eurovision threads!!) to maintain overall positivity & general cheer!!
& the daily ‘kindness’ thing… & ‘daily terror’... LOL
(& my back exercises & walks..)

Also, I want to pose myself a question every day:
‘What would you do if you know you’d succeed & ROCK?!!’

(Inspired by this thread: http://www.43things.com/entries/view/2427685?page=0&new_comment=2448714)

I think I got quite a bit of work done on the past by EFT www.emofree.com & TAT www.tatlife.com & de-negativizing via journalling & such.. So I intend to do those too.. Haven’t really done them on overall future, I think… hmm.. might be interesting…

Any other suggestions on how to achieve this goal?

there had been a lot of things I had to accept and to change. I found a mentor that guides me and I appreciate my new work and lifestyle. I don’t try anymore to get things back in shape like I want to have them – now I go ahead as a role model and motivate my surrounding to follow me.

I made a step in letting go of the past by saying goodbye to a relationship that was over, anyway. I met with the person and said a clear cut goodbye, rather than just letting the relationship hang out there, indefinitely, leaving me in limbo. It was rewarding, because I was able to say goodbye with love and goodwill between us, unlike some other relationships in which I have said goodbye.