I think this relationship has reached its natural end. I’m not mad or upset or anything, I mean it is sad & disappointing, but on the tragedy scale it scores a 4 out of 10 maximum. 2 year relationship, no kids, no marriage, no betrayal or drama. We just don’t seem to fit. 4 weeks ago

From what I understand, it could take a while if it takes at all. 2 months ago

Going to go look at houses tomorrow. 3 months ago

Biggest mistake of my life so far. Regret it. :( 4 months ago

questions to ask yourself:

What are the most important qualities in a life partner? What are your reasons for wanting to move in together? Do you think marriage could be the next step? Do you feel ready to be in a serious, comitted relationship? Are you prepared to be flexible & make sacrifices? What are your relationship “nonnegotiables”—anything that you absolutely, 100 percent can’t tolerate? Where do you see yourself in five years? Ten years? Twenty years? Fifty years?

questions to ask each other:

Moving In. What are your reasons for wanting to live with me? Do you see this as a temporary or long-term arrangement? Have we known each other long enough? Is the timing right?

Lifestyle. How do you see our relationship changing if we move in together? Where do you see us living? Would we spend every night together? What about weekends? Holidays? How would we deal with household chores like cooking & cleaning? Will you be able to handle my level of cleanliness/messiness? What about my cats?

Marriage. Do you believe in marriage? Do you think it can last forever? Do you think it’s in your future? Do you think that you & I are headed in that direction?

Career. Do you see your career dictating your life or your life dictating your career? Is there a chance our career goals could conflict? If so, what would we do?

Money. What are your basic values, goals, & priorities when it comes to finances? Do we have similar spending/saving habits? Do we have similar money management styles?

Family & friends. For you, is family every day, most weekends, once a month, or only on certain holidays? Are you cool seeing my family & friends just as much or more? What about our friends? Will we spend as much time with my friends as we spend with yours—or vice versa?

Geography. Do you plan on staying here or have dreams of moving somewhere else? Do you want to be free to pick up & move at any time or are you anxious to establish roots? Where do you see yourself living in five years? Ten years? Twenty years? Fifty years? City or small town? House, condo, or apartment?

_{There were also questions about children, religion, & personal history. However,we already know the answers to those: we won’t have kids, I am a tolerant atheist & he is a tolerant Hindu, & dating each other 1.5+ years, we’ve got the personal history sorted}6 months ago

I told him we’re going to need to sleep in separate rooms when we do live together due to his snoring. So far we’ve tried the generic breathe right strips, but they don’t work for him. If sleeping on his side doesn’t fix it, I’m not sure what would. 7 months ago

I’ll be living with my boyfriend and his family until they go abroad at the end of July. Then we’ll have three months together before we move out for real. You can’t beat four months free rent and the trial period – hopefully we can get most teething issues out of the way.

Today I am doing laundry, packing up my belongings and cleaning. I’ll be taking minimal belongings with me because we have serious space issues at his parent’s house and everything else will wait at my mum’s until we move. Super excited. 11 months ago

The boyfriend wants to pay off more of his debt to put himself in a better position for getting a good deal on a place. So maybe this fall or even next year. This is excellent news, as I will have more time to get myself sorted out stuff-wise (both emotionally & physically). 11 months ago

I don’t know if I can do this after all. 12 months ago

I never thought I’d say this, but I think I would actually like to move back to the country. 12 months ago

The boyfriend said something about wanting to live off the beaten path & mentioned moving to a smaller town 8 mi N of the city where we live now. While I think it would be lovely to live in the country, I would rather be able to bike/walk to work. 12 months ago