keep negative people out of my life

I’ve lived in a small town and decided to make friends with people who constantly stabbed me in the back and used me. This was my sacrifice just for staying around and enjoying the random capers and occasional action I’d get to see there, and just to bask in the social environment. That was when I turned 19. 3 Years later I found out that the people I was around were so stubborn that after all those years of me being a regular face, they couldn’t withstand my presence in a mature manner like adults. I would get harassed and picked on in an unfriendly manner every time they were around me and it got to the point where it wasn’t healthy. I saw people around me being used and I didn’t want to be used either. I realized that these people were immature, and I was the adult. This was also true in the fact that i was the oldest one out of the entire group. So i took the right step and moved. I am still part of the friend web that was the old town i grew up in, and I still encounter people who bring negative karma to themselves and are pessimistic, narcissistic, and all of the above. Some may realize it, some may not, some like being that way because many people are like that these days. I refuse to be led by the majority. I believe an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. I know there are good people out there who will respect me for who I am. People who do not let jealousy or anger get the best of them. People who feel good about themselves and others and don’t need to be fake to feel like they’re living right. People who aren’t authoritarian, bigoted, conservative, narrow-minded, racist, stuck up. People who aren’t “REAL”! That is what is wrong with the world today. It says right now 80 people want to do this but I know there are so many more of you out there. Raise your fists! We can do this together, WE ARE ONE. Embrace life knowing that you are not alone. We will never die alone because the search for someone special (or those special friends you will have) is NOT hopeless.. No matter who you are, if you are reading this, you are a good person. Don’t let people bring you down! Be yourself and let your emotions bloom. One day when I am surrounded by a new group of friends that I can trust, that I have known for years, that haven’t let me down I will come back here and say that I have done it. Until then I hope this list grows and this community thrives. Karma will come to people who destroy themselves and others. Karma works both ways though, so if you are living life in peace, love and happiness, prepare to reap the rewards of this honor. WE HAVE THE ENERGY, WE KNOW THE TRUTH! let’s live the way life should be lived, in happiness! fuck the haters, i’m out -Nick

I think I have been doing good in this department. Yesterday was a difficult day but I rid myself of two people who have been very negative for me. One of them had been almost torturing me about maybe 5 years…I guess I can call this part of my spring cleaning…

I am tired of people controlling me and the mental abuse that I allow these people to get away with. I am also tired of feeling bad when I have stuck up for myself ~ I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.

there is a guy in my class who’s come along and created a kind of laddy group, including some guy who was really cool before who we cant really talk to without talking to this asshole too. and we all have to work as a big group.. and i feel uncomfortable just saaaaying things to other people when he’s there because i know this guy will just come out with some smartass comment about nothing. i just wish he’d dissappear hes such an idiot and he makes the atmosphere totally unrelaxed.

or am i the negative person here….

I always saw this as flat out. If someone isn’t making you happy, if they are bringing you down then why keep them around. Why diminish your own possibilities of happiness for someone else. So what do you do when what is making you upset, what can be considered negative is also what keeps you happy. If that ‘negative’ person per-say is actually also the most positive person in your life?

The negative people in my life are my mom and my brother. My mom is a constant worrier, always stressed and very controlling. She has helped me alot financially, so I don’t want to be ungrateful, and I do care about her because she is my mom. I feel guilty if I don’t take her calls or help her with things, but when I speak to her and she comes by and starts unloading her worries, it makes me feel so unsettled. Most of her worries is due to my brother because she is helping support him and his wife and family. He is depressed doesn’t want to go out there and look for work again, and she enables him. Then they turn to me and unload stress. I want to be there for them, but they are draining me. Help.

People who always complain and always say negative things about other people just get me down. They drag me down with them. They make me feel the same way they do. I, eventually, end up being just as negative as them.
However, it is not always possible to be 100% free of negative people, but I think I have figured out how to deal with them. If I remain happy and content and not let what they say bother me, I don’t get dragged into their hole. If I just remain confident, I can steer the conversation away from negativity and everybody feels better.

i have come to realize that no matter who you are, you have a bit of negativity in you.

the only things you can do are decide to either be present with a person who displays moments of negativity, or let them go out of your life.

i choose to try to remain present in circumstances that may display brief moments of negativity, but i don’t see how one can be in circumstances of overwhelming hate displayed by someone. eventually, it will wear you down.

i have done well so far with keeping negative people out of my life.
i do have quite a few negative people at work that try to bring me down with them. all i can do i sit and be present with him and listen to their “problems” or rants about other people until they are finished.
but i am seeking new employment.

i just dumped my new group of friends i first made when i moved.
turns out they were talking crap about me behind my back.
aside from that, these people thrived on drama.
every potential good time spent with them always ended badly.
i am realized to have realized all of this so soon instead of later.

The problem for me is some are family… in that case I just limit my time. Sort of like radiation. :-)