keep negative people out of my life

I think I have been doing good in this department. Yesterday was a difficult day but I rid myself of two people who have been very negative for me. One of them had been almost torturing me about maybe 5 years…I guess I can call this part of my spring cleaning…

I am tired of people controlling me and the mental abuse that I allow these people to get away with. I am also tired of feeling bad when I have stuck up for myself ~ I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.

there is a guy in my class who’s come along and created a kind of laddy group, including some guy who was really cool before who we cant really talk to without talking to this asshole too. and we all have to work as a big group.. and i feel uncomfortable just saaaaying things to other people when he’s there because i know this guy will just come out with some smartass comment about nothing. i just wish he’d dissappear hes such an idiot and he makes the atmosphere totally unrelaxed.

or am i the negative person here….

I always saw this as flat out. If someone isn’t making you happy, if they are bringing you down then why keep them around. Why diminish your own possibilities of happiness for someone else. So what do you do when what is making you upset, what can be considered negative is also what keeps you happy. If that ‘negative’ person per-say is actually also the most positive person in your life?

The negative people in my life are my mom and my brother. My mom is a constant worrier, always stressed and very controlling. She has helped me alot financially, so I don’t want to be ungrateful, and I do care about her because she is my mom. I feel guilty if I don’t take her calls or help her with things, but when I speak to her and she comes by and starts unloading her worries, it makes me feel so unsettled. Most of her worries is due to my brother because she is helping support him and his wife and family. He is depressed doesn’t want to go out there and look for work again, and she enables him. Then they turn to me and unload stress. I want to be there for them, but they are draining me. Help.

People who always complain and always say negative things about other people just get me down. They drag me down with them. They make me feel the same way they do. I, eventually, end up being just as negative as them.
However, it is not always possible to be 100% free of negative people, but I think I have figured out how to deal with them. If I remain happy and content and not let what they say bother me, I don’t get dragged into their hole. If I just remain confident, I can steer the conversation away from negativity and everybody feels better.

i have come to realize that no matter who you are, you have a bit of negativity in you.

the only things you can do are decide to either be present with a person who displays moments of negativity, or let them go out of your life.

i choose to try to remain present in circumstances that may display brief moments of negativity, but i don’t see how one can be in circumstances of overwhelming hate displayed by someone. eventually, it will wear you down.

i have done well so far with keeping negative people out of my life.
i do have quite a few negative people at work that try to bring me down with them. all i can do i sit and be present with him and listen to their “problems” or rants about other people until they are finished.
but i am seeking new employment.

i just dumped my new group of friends i first made when i moved.
turns out they were talking crap about me behind my back.
aside from that, these people thrived on drama.
every potential good time spent with them always ended badly.
i am realized to have realized all of this so soon instead of later.

The problem for me is some are family… in that case I just limit my time. Sort of like radiation. :-)

just when i was about to mark this goal complete,
i got sucked into my new friends’ drama.
and i thought my old friends had bad drama!
this is horrible.
i realized tonight that everyone has their own “feel sorry for me” story…
and i’m SICK of hearing it!