be a better conversationalist

Even when I’m with my boyfriend it’s often hard to find things to talk about, in part because I’m so careful about what I bring up.

Hmmm…I wouldn’t say I got better. But at least I tried and I’m happy with whatever progress I made.

I’ve found out that it is just laziness and all I have to do is just push myself a bit more.

This should really be “Become less of a lazy conversationalist.” I do enjoy meeting new people and I enjoy chatting to people but, if I can’t engage with someone straight away then I find it really difficult to carry on a polite conversation without looking bored or giving myself away with poor eye contact. I also, sometimes, fall into the “so obvious they’re rude” kind of questions. I think I might just be a bit “bloody awkward” at times as sometimes I really just don’t feel like talking, and so I don’t and then everyone comments on the fact that I’m very quiet today and I sort of feel like a bit of an idiot saying “I don’t feel like talking today.” but sometimes I just don’t and I can’t help it.

I was doing a search looking for tips on how to become a better conversationalist because I have many of the same problems everyone here lists as concerns of their own conversational skills, but after looking at how many people have this topic tagged as something they want to do, I’m beginnig to think most people probably feel this way, including people we think are better at conversating than we are. I think I’m just going to relax from now on and enjoy the conversations I do have.

I can NEVER think of things to say or talk about when I’m on the phone with my girlfriend. She likes to talk on the phone. I never did like it, but I want SO BADLY to be able to carry on an interesting conversation with her on the phone. I just want to bless her, because I love her so much. WE have conversations in person. We have conversations online. Give me a phone & I just can’t think. It doesn’t matter that I was never good at it, I just need to get better at it. She’s worth it. H E L P ! ! ! ! !

I had a lovely conversation with an equally lovely lady at the Melbourne Conference I attend this week. She made me feel really confident about myself.

I loved her company and her conversation.

I don’t have problems talking to people, its just i have nothing to say and so everyone thinks im shy because of that, does anybody have any ideas of how to help this?

I’m not that bad at conversation if we are only two people, and I’m not that bad if I’m given a role where I’m supposed to speak, i.e. as a teacher, leader, ... .

My problem arises in the social arena with multiple people present, then I most usually tend to blend with the background. Not because I’m not interested and listening, but mostly because the others are better…

Holroy

I just can’t seem to strike a decent conversation with anybody. I suck.