speak up when i know things are wrong

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I think this is a really important thing to do, and im getting better at it… i think i need to work at finding diplomatic ways to do it now lol XD

I want to speak up when I know things are wrong and I often know when things are wrong … my body tells me so. But I am so afraid that I won’t be able to defend my point of view that I choose to keep my mouth shut … up until now. I know that it would feel so good …

I speak up but I get myself in trouble for the things that slip out of my mouth,but now I find myself having serious mental debates with myself over the things I decide to say when I speak up.

I have a tendency to keep quiet even when my gut tells me that something isn’t right in my life. I’ll either pretend it doesn’t bother me, to avoid confrontation or I’ll push it away as those it never existed. This I need to stop and start standing up for myself and I what I believe is right.

I mean, who knows what is wrong? There’s the black and white wrong like dialling the right number but with pretty much everything else it’s all different shades of grey.

This was a goal that I chose previously to better myself, to do the right thing. But it’s too wide, it’s specific yes but still, too wide so I’ll probably go about doing my own way of being a better person. Just that it doesn’t have to necessarily fall under this category.

well, this is a tricky one. deciding when things are “wrong” is a highly subjective notion, but i gathered a lot of independent opinions and factual information before taking action.

another tricky bit is to make the listener feel safe and trusted. hmm, this person saw my conversation coming and was rather defensive and prickly. i had to focus a lot of time and energy reassuring him that i was on his side.

and most tricky of all, i have no idea if i was successful. true, i did indeed speak up – and that was my stated goal. but will my words have any sort of lasting effect? a great journey takes many steps and i bet this one isn’t over just yet.

Today is going to be try Number 2. Last night wasn’t successful and didn’t go anywhere. I am still scared. Because today, it’s going to be face to face, vis-a-vis or however you spell it.

Make sure if you do speak up that it’s really worth the strife it will cause and that you are willing to accept the consequences.

Also important is that you have positive suggestions on how to make it right and most important of all, that you are willing to take part in making it right.

Just bringing up negative things isn’t helpful. Preventing future problems and correcting existing problems will offset the negativity.

I’m going to attempt this. It is a personal thing between a friend (or peer; I dunno what was last year if we weren’t friends back then) and myself.
I am scared.
I lost my nerve a couple of times before. I
want someone else to do this for me, but it can’t and won’t happen that way.