Learn to be less critical of myself and others.

I am hoping that by traveling within my own country, and beyond, that I will gain understanding about people, which will lead me to be less critical and less prejudiced.

How do I stop being so critical. I mean this is a conglomerate of things, but I manage to criticize (spelling??) people away. Specially my boyfriends…every little thing I think they’re not doing to my liking or that may worry me is me criticizing them. How do I stop it?

i’m gaining an awareness. “less” is such a relative term.
i am more accepting of me. i’m trying to be more accepting of them, despite my anger. and i’m learning that other peoples’ faults don’t really have much to do with me.
this is going to be a lifelong goal but i think i’ve made progress. congratulations to me and good luck!

• family is family. love is love. and your friends will love you anyway.
• always try. why not try?
• just because someone is cranky does not mean that they don’t like you, that it’s your fault, that you can really do anything about it or that they want to stop being friends with you forever.
• say sorry, try to make it up later, and freaking move on.
• never underestimate the power of asking.

i can’t help but resent him.
hate is a really stong word.

I can finally say I did it

“don’t beat yourself up.”

she’s a smart woman. and a neat lady.

and he doesn’t remember how to help me. it has been a while. plus, he’s all caught up in his own stresses.
does that mean he’s a bad friend? no. what does it mean for our relationship? nothing, really. i just need to keep in mind circumstances and lose interest in interpreting the actions of others.
i need him right now. he can’t really be there for me. i’m going to need to seek other attentions, and that might not be as hard as i think. (:

i seem to be getting worse at this, not better. more conscious but not really able to do anything about it. perhaps it’s my state of mind that’s the problem?

I do this. I think that everyone in the world is either below me and incompetent or above me and unreachable. Neither is true.
I’m reading I’m Ok, You’re OK by (someguyican’trememberhisname) and it is an eye opener. This pattern started very young and has been reinforced by all my behaviour and that of the people I have chosen to be around. Now I can see that it can be changed and I can like myself and like others at the same time.