deal with my anger

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“i have no finger tips they were burned away by too many stove trips. can’t find no finger nails. i ate’em all cause i was hungry as hell”

“how come girl was there when i needed one?”

“i think i’m gonna build a fence, to keep in side what little sense, the sense of taste, the sense of smell, the sense to sit here & feel like hell…”

“today everythings mine”

“but i’ve never done nothin’ that my spirit couldn’t kill. and i walk around with these tombstones in my eyes, but i know the pusher don’t care if you live or if you die”

“if i’m hungry at 4:30 in the morning, pink dot will deliver”

“sittin’ in the corner starring staight in tothe eyes of jesus christ”

“and i’m oh-so-tired of you pushin’ this that throny crown”
-Shannon Hoon, Blind Melon

i miss him.

and yet…noone could help him. his sadness & hurt was out there for everyone & anyone to see & hear…and the drugs won.

I have stuffed my anger my whole life. Now that I am facing my issues of my past, the anger is coming out. I am scared of it because in my experience anger means violence or abandonment. I always thought it was a bad emotion to have. Now I can’t stop it and its happening all the time for everything! Help!

How does one express anger in a healthy way?

Well, last year I had some devasting news about my family – a huge skeleton came out of the closet as it were. Anyway, yes it was horrible, but now I feel I can cope with it after having counselling etc. Every now and then I get sad about it, but generally I’m over it.
Recently I broke up with my partner of 11 years, and we are still living in our house together, and still good friends.
The only things is, lately I’ve been getting really angry at little things and throwing a huge strop! It’s getting to the point where it is happening everyday (whereas before, I’d rarely get angry), and I end up arguing over petty things, throw things around and shout and scream.
I feel terrible afterwards, and feel helpless that I seem unable to control it.
I heard someone say that anger is often a replacement emotion for feeling sad, because it is more powerful, whereas feeling sad can leave us feeling useless.
Can anyone help me? Or give me ideas on what I can do, as I can’t go on like this!

It’s made my life and the lives around me at least 80% better!

I have been working really hard at actully paying attention to what I think. It is having a profound effect on the way I act. I forgot how much what a person thinks is displayed in there face and body. I find people are more plesent because I am in fact being more plesent, or at least doing a much better job of not allowing my unplesentness to interfear with my day to day life. I have been trying really hard to be more optimistic it makes quite a difference.

I have a lot of this it takes a while for me to actully get out of hand. I’m not supresive by any means, if someone is irritating me I let them know, and I have been getting a little better at not just lashing out at things that anger me. So I’m on the right track its just every so offten everything in my life piles up and I snap, releasing the furry of a thousand dieing suns on any poor soul who crosses me. I feel bad after words I don’t mean to and it acctully scares me sometimes. I am fairly capible of doing alot of damange in a short amount of time phyisicaly and emmotinaly. So I am really trying to find better ways to release my anger in a safe way.

ive developed more of a ‘meh’ attitude. instead of fuming when things go wrong now, i shrug it off… lets see how long it lasts for.

So many people have messed me over in recent times, and now my anger is coming out with everything I do, and it’s all turning intoa vicious cycle, and all I want is revenge. Someone help me.