be an independent woman

That would help me become more independent – plus I need it…its time…I need to get a handle on my fears :)

This is a work in progress for me. As I am learning a lot more about self-love and how I can own it I’m finding that being independent means alot more than just “financial” independence. Like, being independent of my boyfriend. Before I’d be emotionally disraught when he didn’t find the time for me but that’s because I wasn’t busy enjoying my own life. Now I’m reading more, exercising, focusing on being less stuck and being more accountable and it’s making me feel less like a victim and more like an owner of my destiny.

Cheers to independence!

I’m saying that this took me my whole life, because that’s how long it has taken me to be independent of everyone else’s opinions and morals. Oh, and I’ve finally accepted that relationships are a useless waste of time. No, it wasn’t that easy. I had to pee on the electric fence several times before I finally realized I am 200% happier by myself.I no longer make my decisions around anyone else.

So, 9 parts life experience + one part virulent cynicism was my recipe for success.

Love was always been my weakness…when my heart starts pounding… , no matter what my head thinks..it always end up getting set aside. I know everyone is dependent to one another one way or another—as they say ..”no man is an island” ... However… i wish sometimes i am just an island… a confident one. Not scared of being alone and able to stand up to any storm.
What i hate most is depending to others. Ive always been independent and hated asking people for help… further more, i hate to be a burden to anyone. I want to be an independent woman.
For now i am thriving to be one …. but emotionally.. i am still stuck… guess ill always be…

I’m starting to fix my life and become more independent…I now bring in enough income to support myself. Thankfully I don’t have to, so our household is now making twice what we used to. I’m also becoming healthier; I’ve lost some weight and exercise more, and I eat better. My life’s dreams and goals are still kinda tied to my husband, but I am getting a clear idea about what kind of life I want to live. The savings account will need to wait until our past bills are caught up. But it’ll happen.

independence doesn’t end with a wedding ring. Someone asked me the other day: If he divorced you or died tomorrow, what would you regret? I thought about it and now I know:

1) Not having a savings account in my own name.
2) Failing to bring in enough income to support myself.
3) Letting myself go, physically and mentally
4) Losing sight of my life’s dreams and goals

I’ve become distracted by him and our life together. But you know what? There are two of us here and I’m just as important with him as I was without him :)

You grow up depending on your parents. Most times, in the dating scene, you depend upon the “guy.” Well here I am, a working professional at the age of 22. Single. It’s hard to believe that I am at the point I am. I have a great job, a wonderful place to live and by all means, I am extremely happy. I moved to this place with only my family nearby. On my own, I have found the first job out of college. New friendships are being created. It’s been quite the journey. I enjoy being the person I am and hope one day, all my “dreams” will come true. Until then, I am sitll enjoying life and all its glory!

Everything you need is inside you, and the rewards are HUGE. Don’t sacrifice for men, let them work to deserve YOU. Or go it alone. Being in control, achieving 100% independence is the best feeling there is.