Stop comparing myself with others

I missed passing a certification test today by 1% point and I felt as if I where a failure, not as if I had messed up on a test. It was hard to show my face to the other employees, though they were very supportive. I am a proud man, which I see as a negative, and I will have to retake the test within two weeks.

I’m a really competitive person and I have this addiction to comparing myself with others, whether it be popularity, career, and money.

But I think this competitive side has caused a lot of self-destruction and exhaustion.

I want to get rid of it…but it’s so a part of me I don’t know how.

I usually compare myself a lot to other people and how they are doing at a certain thing that I do, too. If they’re better, I’m depressed because I’m not as good as them. It’s not worth it to be in a bad mood just becasue someone can do something better than yourself.
That’s why I decided that I want to compare myself only to myself and not to anyone else. Like this, I’ll feel good about my achievements because I got better than I was before. It just makes you feel better and not be depressed about something someone else achieved and that you didn’t achieve yet.

I’m trying to find a therapist in my area to help me with this.

I dont even know why i compare myself to other people, but i do. Well its only certain people and it urkes the hell out of me. peopl like this:
`The ones that are fake and try to hide who they really are and where they come from
`The ones that claim to be doing so much but isnt really doing anything
`The ones that live at home with their parents,or thats getting government assistance-but claim to be big ballers
`The ones that always seem to always get over on people or things and never get caught.
These kind of people really annoy me-but i stay comparing myself to them when im the total opposite from them and it really needs to stop!

that is supposed to be part time, so that I can be “semiretireed.” I seem to be working with a lot of young people. In fact some of my supervisors are younger than my kids. I find that I want to “prove myself” when it is not necessary!

I need to stop seeing what others have and start seeing what I have.

Others, others, others, what do they think about me?
Do they like me?
Am I beautiful?
Am I popular?

A lots of questions a lot of jealousy.
I want to stop it, others are oters, I am me!
The people who are important don’t care, the people that care aren’t important!
My new way of life; ‘she’s got fashionable clothes, nice for her, I’ve got something that she hasn’t and thats my life, my friends and my family.
Whats more important? Clothes of friends and family?’

Yeah. True story. I don’t need to keep comparing myself to people. Other girls, who have the guy I want. Etc. It’s just not healthy.

I am me. That’s all I should think of myself is how great I am, and not what I could be.

Iam raised like I should be better than my friends,So my parents never stop comparing me to my friends,Why that person do that and you dont,Why he got a better a job and you dont,Why he get married and have kids and you dont,Why he visits everybody and you dont..etc.
This doesnt feel good at all.To avoid this I stay away,I feel better now.I have one question,Does comparing make us perform better,and Isnt life based on comparison,especially when you want to chose between many alternatives.Is comparing is in our nature?