be the "cool" aunt

keeps trying to convince me to move in with them and says that if i do they’ll have babies right away. and i CAN’T WAIT! to be that awesome crazy aunt before i get to be an awesome crazy mom.

I think I would make a really bad mum, but I would love being an aunt. I have two aunts and I love them both! The only problem I have right now is that my only sibling is 10.

Funny thing is that I do not fear that one day they might be tempted to try drugs… and I do hope that I am right about that.
But I had a fear that they would grow up to be too self-conscious about the way they look… especially that the older one would one day be tempted by her physical characteristics and turn into a shallow creature that would pay too much emphasis on her looks.
Everybody who saw her picture made comment that she could be a model. I didn’t even mention any of that to her or commented. Too afraid what she might say. And I did dread that one day she might utter something like “Why don’t I enter a beauty pageant?”
She’ll be 14 soon. However, she did came one day from the hairdresser and said she’s quite annoyed becuase people keep telling her to enter a beauty pageant and she thinks it’s stupid.
Oh, I was so relieved and proud of her.
That’s one down, one to go, :). The younger niece wrote the other day a homework saying that her older sister is her idol because she is so pretty. Well, she’s just 11. I hope that her expressed admiration of her sister is based not only in her sister’s looks but also in her personality.

I have a nephew and I want to be his “cool” aunt. The one that takes him places and does things with him and lets him get a little outta line (but not too much). Yep, I wanna be the cool aunt.

Being the “cool” aunt is a bit of a mixed bag, depending on the personalities of your nieces and nephews. I have two nephews and two nieces, all of them now (youngish) adults. Both nephews had some behavior issues through thier formative years, and I always tried to be on hand to listen to their side of things. I didn’t always agree with them, but they could always count on me to listen impartially before I told them what I thought of the situations they were in. My nephews actually have kids of their own, so I’m also working on being the “cool” great-aunt now, as well. Funny when I hear one of them saying “Patience, child,” (my constant refrain) to one of his kids.
My nieces had fewer problems, it seems, but the older one has always been a bit bratty & self-centered. Needless to say, I spent a lot of time and (I’m ashamed to say it) money trying to coax her to be more socially aware. I’ve realized only recently that I can pretty much count on her to treat me like a human cash machine if I let her, so I don’t let her (anymore). I also don’t compare her to her sister, except for right now when I’ll say that my younger niece is a much better friend to me than her sister has so far managed to be. Love them and listen to them. That’s the coolest thing you can do.

And I’m so proud of myself because of it. I can’t think at this moment of any other title that would make me so proud.
Though I’m aware that it is a very fragile position considering that this title might not survive next birthday and, in all honesty, I really had to work hard for it. More than a decade of planning months ahead, getting inside information… And it was always worth it. Just to be able to see the sparkle in my nieces’ eyes, the overwhelming happiness when they unwrap the presents. Priceless. Grown-ups are more complicated. I can’t remember if I ever made any grown-up ecstatic by giving them some thoughtfully chosen gift.