get a boyfriend

Hey!! Im 12, gunna turn 13 this mounth!!!!!!! Ive had a Boy friend before, but things didnt work out to well cause he didnt really care about me :( I think he only wanted to have a girlfriend so he’d be more popular or something sigh. And its really annoying at my school cause my friends say I have just about a choise of every single guy in the whole school cause they think every1 has a crush on me…. Just waiting to find that one guy that will treat me right and awknoledge me and stuff….. A tip? I would have to say be brave. For all other middle schoolers out there, unless the guy is a complete doushbag and your the most unpopular girl in school, the guy will probably say yes if you ask him to dance. Iknow the guys SHOULD be asking the girls but i dont really think it matters to much. Right now im flirting with this guy- Andy. Hes really cute and has black messy hair and blue eyes and hes dreamy ok ^{.^’ well hopefully I’ll be able to do this… Imma call him RIGHT NOW…..... maybe… most likey….... maybe later….....UGH!!!! im to scared lol! plz help!}

C ya’s!!!
^mer_anda

Why can’t I find anyone for me?? Am I not good enough?

i’ve officially decided im am the worlds laziest girlfriend and i only like the guys that are complete douches. fuck this. i dont want another boyfriend. although you can get them to do embarrassing things all because you’re in a relationship. thats the only plus. but i get my friends to do that stuff anyway haha

Still no progress on this front, I’m afraid. It’s a bit sad. I feel very frustrated.

Its just that I don’t want a relationship, every single opportunity I have ever had ( and I ve had a decent number of them ) I purposely push these people away, the second I feel anything I don’t want anything romantic with them .. just being friends is good. I can sleep with this guy who I know doesn’t want a relationship with and thats the only reason I feel I can be intimate with him…

I don’t know whether this will be my main goal in life for this year, or if I am going to do this half-assed.

But I think I should make an effort. It’s been two years since I’ve had a date and one year since I’ve been laid.

I am very lonely.

Currently I’m reading Love in 90 Days. I work in a MacBookstore, so I get to borrow books. I plan to read it once quickly, then re-read it and do the assignments/excercises.

I do believe that if someone is embarking on a quest for personal growth or change, then assignments/excercises are beneficial for progressing towards the goal. This is true whether you are working on a self-help program or are under the guidance of a counselor/therapist.

MacBookstore employees can only borrow books for a limited time, so I have to decide later whether to buy the book.

Chapter 2 is called Breaking the Deadly Dating Patterns. The author mentions that a lot of women have a combination of DDPs. One that is clearly mine is called The Hermit. All of my life I have had social phobic tendencies. In my childhood and teens I was extremely shy and had no friends. I still don’t make friends easily. My sister thinks I have Aspberger’s Syndrome.

In Chapter 1, the author tells you to join a social (or social-political) group or take a class so that you can meet others outside of work. But my personal interests/passions don’t seem to attract a lot of hetero men or are not really social. I am interested in Wicca/Magick/Spells, Crystal Healing, Astrology, Taoism/Chi Gong, Sacred Rituals in Asia, Mythology, Gay Rights/Gay Marriage :), Human Rights (especially China/Tibet/Burma), Society for Creative Anachronism/Renaissance Faire, etc. What to do? I want to be true to myself but I want to meet men on a regular basis.

I also would like to learn/improve my MS Word (and other common office programs)skills, photography, blog design, blogging/writing, documentary shorts, etc. But how social would classes in these subjects be? What if nobody talks to me and everybody just hurries home after class?

After I finish Love in 90 Days, I’ll read the book by that Millionaire Matchmaker lady. I don’t believe that a single book on a particular subject to be the sole bible.

I’m fifteen years old and I can already say I haven’t had much luck with relationships. My first real boyfriend lasted three weeks but he was two years older than me and a complete jerk. He made me buy him everything, would always want to hook up, and ended up cheating on me with his friend he introduced me to just the week before. I felt heartbroken, and I promised myself I wouldn’t date another guy like him.
My second boyfriend was a bit more serious. We were talking for five months, and dated officially for three. I made the mistake of cheating on him in the beginning of our relationship but I told him and he still wanted to be with me. He seemed to be the nicest guy ever and I grew attatched to him. I would spend countless hours on the phone with him every night and want to talk to him every second. I liked him so much that he ended up taking my virginity. But, a month after we had sex my grandfather died and I went out of town to attend his funeral. While I was out of town, he had sex with my best friend. I broke up with him because he started treating me badly and kept making bad decisions. When I found out about him cheating on me, I was truely heartbroken and cried everyday for weeks.
I see happy couples around school everyday and they make me jealous. I feel like I’m never going to have a good relationship and that no guys are interested in me anymore. I want to find a nice guy who will love me for me, not for sex. I want to prove to myself that not every guy I date will be an asshole. I know I can be a good girlfriend and I know not to cheat again, so I just need one special guy to give me a chance to be their love.

im sooooo lonley but i do like this one guy…...;P

This one will be probably be the very hardest one for me on this entire list.

All of a sudden I’ve finally started to believe what I’ve been telling myself for ages-That I don’t NEED a boyfriend!
I wouldn’t mind one like, but prehaps this goal isn’t as important as I thought!
What I really need to do is to improve my confidence so if I do come across someone I like I’ll be able to be my true,charming self without being so shy he wont realise who I really am anyway!
So I think I’ll try to forget about this goal for the time being and just get on with my life-concentating on being happy and confident! :)