NEVER have children

I hate it when i tell people that I don’t want to have children and they say “oh yeah that’s what i said” or “you’ll change your mind” or the like.

it freaks me out. I’m getting effin sterilized just in case I do become super dellusional and think i would want children, it would be too late lol.

no freakin thank you.

EVER!!

I spoke with my brother a couple of days ago and some things he said made me feel even more sure about this goal. He has a daughter who’s less than a year old and he’s now on parental vacation.

He told me how he had meant to call me many times but somehow just couldn’t find a good moment for that. Basically he was saying that he hasn’t had time to do much else than take care of the child, and the only time he has for himself are the couple of hours when the girl sleeps. He wasn’t really complaining, but I kinda got the feeling that he wasn’t entirely happy either.

Getting to the point, I can safely say that I would be very unhappy in such a situation. I’d probably feel like my life was going to waste; dedicating my life to kids just doesn’t sound like a good idea. Instead of that I want to dedicate my life to myself, my girlfriend and my closest friends.

I pretty much hate kids. I wonder sometimes if something from my childhood made me feel this way. Am I jealous of them because I wish I was still a kid? Is that it? I don’t know…but I want to kick them all in the face and laugh at them while they cry. Isn’t that horrible?!!?

They’re not even cute to me. All I see are money-eating, snotty little things running around. I see no appeal in childbirth either. Wow, I get to look fat for nine months, have people constantly touching me and cooing at me, and possibly die. Yeah, that sounds like fun.
I guess it’s only natural that I have no motherly instincts either. I never wanted to play with dolls or babysit. I always feel really uncomfortable around children too. I’ve no idea why.
I also hate the fact that there’s a chance of my child ending up with some sort of learning disorder. That I cannot take.
There’s just no appeal in kids for me and I’d like it if people would actually start respecting my opinions. I will not “change my mind when I get older”, so please stop giving me that I-know-better look old lady… _

overpopulation? real problem. look it up.

i always just figured that if i were ever to be overcome by some innate maternal urge (highly unlikely for me), i’d adopt. honestly. there’s no reason why any other young human being in this world is less capable of being loved than i’d love my own, or less deserving of a safe, sustaining, and loving environment.

there are so many that’ll never get that chance, but why?
let’s take care of those who’re already here.

It’s odd, I just lost my drive. There’ve been a few things that had me re-thinking my convictions on this.

First off, a few months ago I went to a meeting of a club for child-free people. I was really put off by how negatively some of them spoke of people who did decide to have children. I didn’t want kids myself, but I don’t hold it against people who make that choice for themselves. I just didn’t feel like I fit in, and quite honestly, I didn’t want to fit in.

More recently (and more significantly), I attended a gymnastics class. There was not an adult class, so I ended up in a Trampoline and Tumbling class with a bunch of kids.

I was anxious about it, because I have never felt comfortable with kids, but I really wanted to take the class. During that class, I started to realize that I was expecting to be teased by the kids. Here I am, a grown woman, afraid of being teased! This is a very very old fear, back from my childhood, and I believe the root of my aversion to children.

During that class, the kids were so nice to me. There was one little girl, Courtney, who “took care of me”. She had a very cute little speech impediment, couldn’t pronounce R’s very well. She waited in line with me at each exercise area and told me what to do. Their kindness really touched me, and I found myself nearly overcome with emotions at a few points during class. I had to focus on the tasks at hand to maintain composure.

I’m definitely going to keep going to the class. I think it’ll be good therapy for me.

In any case, I feel like I need to rethink this whole thing. I need to fix my childhood fears, not avoid them. I’m glad I was able to figure this out.

nearly every person my age that i’ve been around has, at one time or another, said that they never want to have kids.

kids freak me out.
they’re all helpless…they seem like they would break easily. and what if you raised a psycho? that wouldnt’ feel too good…

...not to mention that they all they do for the first few years of their lives is eat, cry and shit.

Hate them always hated them. Nothing’s changed…. Got tubes tied with no kids!!!

I am without child. I guess that means mission complete!!!!