Brush my shoulders off

I need to learn to build thicker skin!

I will keep the goal “let go”

It was suggested to me the other day that I let something roll off my back like water off a duck.

Ducks are slick and water just rolls off them.

if you’re right handed contra laterally bruch the opposite shoulder and vise versa. dont hesitate to contact me if you’d like assistance with this.

Yea so i did it and it was great. First I did the right then the left. I totally recommend it

This goal has always been hard for me. When I feel like I’ve been put down or someone does or says something negative to me, I either want to go for them (verbally), or just run away and lick my wounds. This time, a friend who I really like, was saying negative things to me about my very best friend (who she doesn’t know very well). I felt like I was the one being attacked. I found myself getting very defensive. It really hurt. I didn’t (and still can’t) understand why someone would talk negatively about someone’s best friend right to their face. (whether what was said was true or not doesn’t matter) I’m very protective of my friends and family. Or should I say, I’m very protective of the friends and family of mine that are loyal to me, and who have been there for me. As I get older, those things are more a treasure to me than ever. I’d really rather someone trash me, than someone I care about. (I’m brushing off my shoulders now….)

I need to work on this instead of worrying about what people said or thought or whatever later on in the day.

...and easy!!!

This paragraph is being posted here as a note to myself during a moment of clarity and I can’t think of another place to write it. On a few different occasions in my life people have told me that if I want to do well in life I need to play the game. They’ll say things like, Stephanie you got smile a little or flirt and the one I hate the most sometime you have to just kiss a little ass. The thing is I’d rather walk naked covered in honey into a bee hive than kiss anyones ass. I think ass kissing is a form of lying and deceit but that is a whole other discussion. So I’ve always prided myself on not playing the game but it just hit me that all these years I have. I’ve been playing other people’s games by _ my_ rules. I need to get out of the game (or games) altogether. Just do my thing. Focus on my goals and my agenda and leave these fools alone.

Ok and now to the post. This goal is never really complete until you life is complete. Like A Well-Read Dog Head said, this is more of a life skill. In the last couple of months I have been brushing my shoulders off consistantly. The difference between now and when I first posted this goal is like night and day. Well… maybe not quite night and day but maybe daybreak and mid morning.

I have good days and bad. On the good days I’m whipping the dirt of my back and shoulders and doing a little dance while doing it. On the bad days I’m lifting a weary arm to brush off the days crap. Struggling to wipe the dust from my eyes and keep my vision because for me that’s the key to this. Keeping my vision and not letting anyone or anything cloud it.

For me one of the things this goal is about is learning to encourage yourself. To pushing foward even when no one is cheering you on. Doing this takes less effort than before. I’m not ready to mark this goal complete yet but almost. Probably in about three months.