be resilient

This is one of my favorite goals. I like that I’ve adopted it because it’s such a good reminder for me sometimes. During the day, I often find myself saying… “BE RESILIENT”... about so many different things! For me, it’s all about not losing it emotionally… I feel like I’m gonna crack for one reason or another… I’ve been finding my center and reminding myself of this goal. It makes me feel bigger that whatever the situation is. Resilience is a state of mind.

Thankfully it has taken up residence in mine. : )

The next 7 days are going to be a challenge to my resilience. I have a few very undesirable tasks to which I have to attend. They say when you are unhappy with something, change, it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude about it. Agreed… but I’m finding it difficult to do that right now. I think the first thing I need to do is remember that “I can” and remain vigilant in my effort to “be resilient”. Over the past year, I have really grown into this goal. It’s times like this… family responsibilities at level ten, work responsibilities at level ten, music responsibilities at level ten…and then not to mention… take care of self and daily mundane tasks that absolutely require my attention….yes, this where, historically speaking, I start to crumble. I can handle one or even two of these . But in the ebb and flow of life’s ocean, when ALLLLL of them wash to shore at the same time, I start to lose it…. and forget…. to be resilient. I’m nipping it in the bud right now so I don’t lose the plot over the next 7 days…. for one, I don’t want to even be remotely tempted to pick up a cigarette, and two… I want to enjoy the next 7 days of my life! Because even though I have all of these things going on… well GEEZ! It’s still life and I’m not going to get these 7 days back to live again!!!!!!!

So the goal here for me is to seek out within myself the obstacles and decide what is going to make the next 7 days not only tolerable and manageable, but enjoyable. . . it’s my precious gift of life after all!

Obstacles:

1) Disorganization: I don’t have a clear picture of what the next seven days entail. I need to stop and take 10, 15 even 30 minutes to map out everything that needs to be accomplished, where I need to be an when… and what I need to bring and have prepared.

2) Bulging Brain Syndrome: I try to think about all of it at once and worry about all the outcomes and possible scenarios. To that I say “SHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!” Shush, brain! If it’s a worry, write it down. If it’s just stupid brain chatter… then nicely and kindly say “Shhhhh. Enough, now”. It’s so much wasted brain energy that’s not needed and takes away from the task at hand in the moment. I’m not fully present in that moment, and ultimately missing that part of my life.

3) Yoga: I need to do 15 minutes of Yoga and breathing to realign and find my center. Here I can be present. Grounding myself in the ancient practice, should help me stay grounded throughout the day. Ideally, first thing in the morning would be great, but if I can’t… anytime during the day will be fine.

Bottom line…. if I had to simpilfy what I need to do to be resilient:

Stay organized while following the plan. Just do the next right thing with a quiet, centered approach.

: ) ....ok…. bring it on next 7 days!

It is seriously hot here – 100 degrees Fahrenheit / 37 degrees Celsius. Can’t sleep from it. I’m thinking to put up a bed in the basement to try to make it more livable.

Update: Put the futon together in the basement so we can sleep there tonight.

I feel that I’m in one of the traditional movies where the hero despairs that things can ever work out, then claws his/her way to the top. :) Okay, at least the ending is most definitely what I want!

My husband told my parents yesterday that he’s signing up for the military reserve again. Then he gets a call from them today trying to talk him out of it. His parents are pretty hands-off. If that’s what he wants to do, then so be it. Mine, on the other hand, are quite pushy and want him to do what they think is best. They are very stressful for us to deal with.

one for the last several days. I’m going to try to put forth a positive attitude.

reading about other people’s goals. Some of them are so familiar and help express how I’m feeling.

_{I keep looking back and thinking about how I got to this point. If I’m truly the only thing holding me back from realizing my goals or if my feelings lead to something else—like truth. I suppose my feelings can help motivate me, the adrenaline of it all, but in other ways they’re so unhelpful! Such as fear.}

_{I’ve made several huge (for me) changes over the past several years. Leaving the place I consider “home” a couple of times, each time distraught about the thought of leaving the place where I’m happiest. I had people ask me if I really wanted to leave (seeing my reaction), and each time I thought I was doing the right thing to support others…}

_{Maybe I was wrong, but I honestly couldn’t see the options being realistic in staying. Not without support.}

in my mind to relive how this all came about. It’s not helpful anymore and drains energy that I can use to plan for the future.

I’ve been reading about how to be more resilient and it seems like hope is crucial. People need to believe that things will get better.

as I keep taking action on any front that I possibly can, I feel better.

To quote from Galaxy Quest: “Never give up! Never surrender!” ;)