I know I should do it. but sadly I dont do it. My tongue is totally uncontrollable when I am angry and I get down to the cheap limits of calling my fiances names like bastard rascal and other things. This is very weird of me because in my good moods I am pretty much decent and respectful but once he triggers me doing or saying something that I dont like, it acts as a trigger and it just gets way too worse. When he does things that I dont like, I feel like ditching him for good! trust me he is no angel either but he controls his tongue very well. I want to ditch him but not like this. I want to first control my tongue and then find more rational way of telling the fella that I dont like him! I think getting off in anger just reflects my weak personality and uncontrollable tongue is a part of it and this is exactly what I want to overcome before I make my case clear!
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Help!!!!!!!!! I have ALWAYS had a problem with this. Certain instances will set me off like a firecracker and I will lose all control over the cruel things I am willing to say. As I am saying them and even looking back on them, it is very difficult for me to see how hurtful my words are. I’m too old to blame this on the way I was raised. I don’t have a clue where to start to overcome this FLAW in my character, except to pray.
“When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.”
...then say nothing at all.
I really have a problem with this. My tongue has caused me and those around me more grief than I can bear. And the worst thing about it is that I often KNOW in advance that my thoughts are not productive and so I should ignore them or keep them inside. But I rarely ever do so.
This all sounds so theoretical…so…example:
My husband cooked us ham and mashed potatoes the other day. I saw him walk through the living room with a bag of spinach. I put two and two together and knew he was going to cook that as the veggie. But I like either corn or green beans with ham and mashed potatoes since I like to mix it up into a casserole on my plate. So while the meal was cooking, I had this internal conversation:
“Look, we’re probably out of corn and he wants to make a veggie but doesn’t want to tell you cause he knows you won’t like his choice. So when you get into the kitchen, say NOTHING. If you don’t want the spinach, just don’t eat it.”
Now that is the right thing to do. I know it. You know it.
But I simply found myself unable to say nothing. I simply HAD to say “Where’s the corn?” And then a whole thing ensued about how “you know I like corn with ham” and then I wound up feeling like crap and…even worse…my husband wound up feeling like crap.
This happens way too often.
I simply must learn to hold my tongue no matter the internal discomfort.
If I can do it just once…just once! Then perhaps I will be on my way.
Sometimes people just do/say really stupid or ignorant or just flat out obnoxious and unecessary things. >:-1…
I’ll work on it.
