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Overcome Being Shy
6 months ago
So, I’ve been shy for the longest time now & I really don’t want to be shy anymore. Any ideas on how to do this!?
How to overcome Being Shy
It made me
More confident! 
"At first I really had to push myself,but gradually I began to feel comfortable in social situations and realised I was finally getting over my shyness!"
How I did it: Ever since I can remember people have described me as "shy" but I always thought there's nothing wrong with being shy!
And there isn't really anything wrong with being naturally introverted if you're happy with yourself that way but deep down I knew I wasn't!
I always wanted to meet lots of people,and feel more confident in social situations but my shyness was holding me back! I realised this quite some time ago but I didn't make much real effort to get over my shyness until about 2 years ago when I realised that often people mistake shyness for rudeness so I decided to make a concious effort to change my behaviour,I began by trying to act confident (through my body language etc) and by deliberatly putting myself in situations which require confidence and where I could practice talking to new people.At first you really have to push yourself but after a while you catch yourself feeling perfectly content in situations where you would've previously been shy-and you realise you're begining to get over your shyness! I still wouldn't say I've completely overcome my shyness (I still occasionally feel like I used to) but I'm certainly getting better!
Lessons & tips: I always used to get really scared/nervous when it came to certain situations (Such as meeting new people) but I decided that being scared/nervous/shy wasn't really a valid reason not to do something I really wanted to do so I'd make myself do it anyway!
Practice makes perfect-the more I practiced making friends and talking to new people the less scary it became-these days I even enjoy it! :D
Resources: Practice,practice,practice!! Talk to people anywhere and everywhere until it becomes less of an issue!
The internet/books have lots of useful advice on learning on how to appear confident but you need to put this into practice in order to begin to get over your shyness!
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6 months ago
i want to meet more people who i have things in common with but anxiety holds me back. if im with other friends im comfortable and can be talkative but on my own i have an antisocial appeal. pills dont help just screw u up more.
Almost there...
6 months ago
I think I’m getting closer and closer to this!
People have even commented on how much more confident I’ve become!
I still don’t feel quite ready to say I’ve “completed” this goal but I feel I’m getting close.
One Step: Move out
7 months ago
Moving out is one of my 43 things and I believe it will help me to become more independent, become more comfortable with myself, and therefore help overcome my shyness.
My plan...
9 months ago
I’ve always been pretty shy but when I was younger it didn’t really affect my friendships. However, as I’ve gotten older its become more and more difficult to make and maintain friendships. I believe most of the problem is that I just don’t know what to say in a lot of situations, I’m horrible at small talk. I just get really nervous and have difficulty saying anything at all. I trip over my words and then get embarrassed and then it just gets worse from there.
So my plan is to:
1. Start talking with my roommate more to get practice talking with someone.
2. Say something to 1 person in a class every day (it could be anything, just say something!)
3. Try to have lunch/dinner with someone once a week.
4. Get out of my room to study a few times a week. (I think being out of my room studying around other people will help me to be more comfortable).
That’s all for now, just something to get me started.
yay..
2 years ago
I think I’m slowly getting less and less shy! It’s such a great feeling and I’m meeting tons of new and interesting people!!
Untitled
2 years ago
i need to do this badly! everyone calls me “the shy one” and i even got the “quiet girl” award. whenever i talk, people are like, “IT TALKS!!” it’s rather embarrassing.
Untitled
2 years ago
You have WAYYY more fun when you open up to people. Granted I am still a tad prude…but I have so much fun now that I open up to so many people. Often times it just takes the right person or group of people to come along, and you will become more outgoing by being with them.
The most important thing you have to do first, though, is to open up to yourself and love yourself. Self confidence is they key- if you like the way you are you will be confident around others because you know they will also like the way you are.
Untitled
2 years ago
This is a great accomplishment for me, i feel like a whole new person. The fact that i am no longer self-concious upon the words that tremble out of my mouth when i am meeting someone new is one hell of an accomplishment for me. i realized that what they think about me truely doesn’t matter, only what i think about myself is the shit that really matters. it’s really hard overcoming this mental tic becuase it’s a degrading cycle of sorts, if you believe yourself to be shy then you conciously try to tell yourself not to be shy in doing that you are really only backing up the fact that you truely are shy which makes you even more nervous when trying not to act what you are reinforcing to be your persona. so being shy is really only being afraid of peoples judgements of who you are, i dont think we should fear anything in life.things we are afraid of end up owning us and if you break it down fear isn’t even real.liberate yourself
