Challenge my brother about his behaviour (in a supportive way)

have seen more of him this yr than normal, he’s catsit for us and I am helping him with job application, and may end up working with alongside him – mixed feelings about that but still, much more flow between us than when I first opened this goal.

Again, have done bugger all in terms of supporting him. Have barely been alone with him. It’s G’s birthday so maybe invite them both out for a pint next week and get chatting?

Going to see him on Easter Sunday with rest of family. Still haven’t done anything that could be remotely described as challenging tho…

Argh. This feels really, really hard. I almost feel like I shoudl write him a letter if only to clarify my own feelings. I think altho he’s seen as the victim I actually feel very defensive around him, because he shares so little with me… So there’s always the suspicion you are making yourself vulnerable by offering your opinion or your concern. And I barely feel I can have any contact with his daughter because of his behavior. Next step I guess is just to see him at the house on mother’s day. Or maybe text him first, or call him privately.