I just read the book, House Rules, in which a major character as Asperger’s Syndrome. Not only does he have Asperger’s, he probably has every conceivable symptom and characteristic of it. Super-Aspie in other words.

Last night I had an upsetting conversation with my husband, and part of the reason why it upset me is because I spent so much time recently with a fictional aspie – and I see so much of that in my husband.

He’s so smart, he’s learned how to deal with the rest of the world pretty well. And it isn’t like he’s squarely in the middle of the map of autism – he just has one foot firmly planted in it. But that foot is there.

There are many things that I love about him that are attributable to AS: he’ll never lie to me. His integrity is very high.

But it’s like he doesn’t like other human beings some times. He doesn’t seem to get that he can be by himself – especially now that he’s unemployed – any time he wants to be. But this summer is the last summer we’ll all be together as a family. The last summer before one of our girls flies the coop and even if she comes back again, she’s not coming back as our girl in the same way any more.

Doesn’t he want to spend time together as a family? Doesn’t he love his girls? Doesn’t he get how important this is to me? 23 months ago