NO MORE DRAMA!

I’m still dealing with some drama in my life but I am handling it better. I don’t let it get me down. I laugh at it and move on.
Eventually drama disappears if it is ignored bc it lives on your energy. PPL who cause drama feed on it to survive, and don’t think the exist if they aren’t being thought about.

It stems from low self-esteem issues. Thats really all there is to it.

So I would consider all these revelations to be progress.

Last week I got a fortune cookie that said “Those that love gossip hate peacefulness”.

I agree and I dont need any more stress.

When I gossip about people I feel stressed.

I try not to participate in it when people start.

I dont stop them but I dont contribute anything but fact.
A fact can be negative but if it is purposeful and part of a storyline it is ok.

I dont spread rumors or hearsay, or tell stories for the sake of hearing myself talk, or slander someone.

My life has been less dramatic without dramatic people in it.

I hear a lot of drama , but I should always remember NOT to involve myself, and that includes not inquiring further!!!

My friend/sponsor has been a big help in getting drama out of my life.

I hope I get stronger in this battle.

Much improvement has been made but much improvement is still needed!!!

I got rid of a BAD roommate.
I no longer have him in my life AT ALL.
I have had way less drama since.
My advice to anyone else with this goal is stop hanging around the people who cause the drama, and don’t feel bad about it (their guilt is only another tactic they use to perpetuate unnecessary drama).
Hang around people who make you feel good and HAPPY.
If someone makes you feel bad, RUN.

I like the post another person added who is under this category.

http://www.43things.com/entries/view/1837152

This was really helpful!

Ill need to reference it bc I have a bad memory.

Its mainly because of my dad. He is a bit of a sports fanatic… And everytime I end up doing something wrong in baseball or basketball he’ll end up hving an episode. However that seems to be dieing down some ever since he has been working out of town for a while…

I think that in general my life is tending toward more real interaction with my world, my deity & my fellow human beings and less pointless drama.

So I don’t think I need this one as a reminder anymore.

I hope.

here’s to more authentic life & following my passion & what makes me happy rather than making myself sad.

Date: 2004-01-24 12:44
Subject: A really important lesson for me to learn
Security: Public
Mood: calm

Serepiditously, this was posted on ross_winn’s journal today, and it’s just the lesson I need for my life, so much so that I’m adding it to my Memories for reference when I’m in danger of engaging in drama again:

According to Webster’s Dictionary, drama is “a state, situation or series of events involving intense conflict or force.” Passion, on the other hand, is defined as “a devotion to some activity, object or concept.”

Do you live your life in drama or passion? Are you attracting partners who live in drama or passion?

• Everything gets a huge, emotional response.
• The emotional response is often followed by a big action.
• Peace is seldom experienced and often much wished for.
• Life is either really great or very terrible.
• Relationships, work and life in-general feel like a roller coaster.
• There is a general feeling of being drained.

• Emotions run deep and grow in intensity over time.
• Actions are thought out and lead toward the object of passion.
• Peace coexists with elation and excitement.
• Life is good, even when it’s filled with ups and downs.
• Relationships, work and life feel balanced.
• There is a general feeling of being energized.

Can you see how living with passion is infinitely better than living with drama? Can you see how much more you can accomplish, experience and love when living with passion?

Sometimes these two states are difficult to distinguish. Both have intense emotions and activity associated with them. Many times people are attracted to potential partners because they are looking for passion, but they miss this distinction and end up with drama. If you are attracting people who are living with drama instead of passion, examine whether you are doing the same thing.

What can you do if you are living with drama right now?

Whenever you feel like reacting to a situation, whether in your relationship or otherwise, stop. Take a walk. Breathe. Talk to yourself. Ask yourself the following questions:

1. Is this as important as it seemed a few minutes ago?
2. Is my reaction appropriate for this situation?
3. What am I feeling?
4. What is my biggest concern here?
5. What do I really want out of this situation?
6. How do I need to act in order to get what I want?
7. Is what I want possible?
8. Why do I want this?
9. What are my needs that I need to care for right now?
10. What is the truth that I need to communicate?

It is fairly easy to break the cycle of drama. It takes a deep decision to live your life differently and the willingness to be peaceful no matter what.

Interestingly enough, once you give up the drama, your current and future partners will seem to have given it up as well.

May your passion burn brightly!

(c) Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002.

. . . get all the crazy people out of my life, though I’ll suffer from the lack of entertainment that some of the people in my life can bring, I’ll be able to sleep at night more soundly.