be confident in my relationship

I have dated all kinds of guys and every relationship has turned out the same but one-they all dump me and I get very hurt every single time no matter how much I told myself to be on guard for this. Right now I’m dating someone who is nice and has many things in common with me, but he doesn’t pursue me like he used to, claiming that he’s busy. My first reaction to this is that he doesnt like me anymore, even though I know that he’s sometimes actually busy. But at other times I kno deep inside that if he really wanted to spend more time with me, he would make it happen. And he’s not. I make all the plans. That’s just one scenario, what I really need is relationship confidence no matter what the situation.

This paragraph runs through my head everyday thanks to all the douche bags I’ve dated. Thanks assholes. Girls go watch ‘He’s just not that into you’ it helps a little.

I watched When Harry Met Sally recently, for maybe the fourth time, but it was the first time I understood why Sally finally breaks down about her relationship with Joe. She believed he didn’t want something in general, but when it came down it, he just didn’t want it with her. I didn’t understand it in the film previously, but somehow, I’ve always been expecting it. When you say you don’t want something, I obsess over the idea that maybe you just don’t want it with me.

Maybe that’s still my tendency to over-analyze, or maybe it’s a realistic concern.

When things feel chaotic, confusing, or frustrating, my first instinct it that I need to be doing more to alleviate the situation. More energy, more time, more unpartitioned devotion. That instinct is misleading, and what I need to do is take a step back into myself to even see things more clearly and lessen the tension. I need to invest in myself first, and everything else is icing. When you sacrifice too much of yourself, nothing will ever feel right.

I dumped him