stop saying sorry for no good reason
1 month ago
Someone bumps into me – I say ‘sorry’. Must make a concerted effort to stop saying ‘sorry’ all the time..starting now!
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How to stop saying "sorry" so often
It made me
confident!
 "I realized I don't have to apologize for being myself, for speaking my mind, for making silly mistakes, or for things beyond my control; as a result, I have gained confidence and self-respect."
How I did it: I started by keeping track of each time I said "sorry" each day-- to whom? under what circumstances? in what manner? After I became more aware of how often I unnecessarily apologized, I began replacing the word sorry with other more self-assured words and phrases. I tried to make a point of saying "excuse me" when someone accidentally bumped into me, "pardon?" when I didn't hear what someone said, "oh, my bad" for minor slip-ups in casual settings, and "woopsy daisy!" when I made a silly mistake that didn't really affect anyone. Gradually, I began minimizing the times I said "sorry" in everyday conversation and reserved the word only for heartfelt apologies and for upset customers at work. In doing so, I also became more self-aware of my apologetic mannerisms and became more self-assured and confident.
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It made me
less sorry 
How I did it: I moved to Germany. They don't really say, "I'm sorry" for all the trivial things we use it for. The word they use for pardon, like when you bump someone on the train is "enshuldigung" --- to long to just whisper under your breath.the other alternative is "Es tut mir lied" -- which is really formal. So after a few months I got out of the habit. I realized that often we can apologize with a look or a little guesture, and sometimes, like wh… Read how I did it…
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9 months ago
I say I’m sorry constantly even if I had nothing to do with it. I think after a certain point, it just becomes habbit. Espically if you keep saying “I’m sorry” about things you really couldn’t help, or being sorry for well… being the way you are.
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10 months ago
I have a terrible habit of apologising all the time. It had gotten to the point that my boyfriend yells at me to stop apologizing. Its really over anything that i say I’m sorry for. if we go out to dinner and he doesn’t like the food I say sorry. I don’t know what makes me feel that it is somehow my fault. I have to learn to just accept the things I have no control over.
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10 months ago
Someone close to me now said we first met “why do you say sorry so much?”, I don’t know why – I think it’s more reflex… perhaps I don’t want to take up space or I just want to be a part of something… I’ll try making more of an effort to change.
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10 months ago
I never really noticed me doing this but lately I’ve done it all the time…even over the stupidest of things. It makes my boyfriend feel bad because he thinks he has something to do with it and can’t help. I want to stop saying “sorry” so much for myself and for him.
Untitled
12 months ago
I have no idea why I apologize SOOOOOOO much (for stupid little things too) and most of the time I dont even notice Ive said it until someone brings it to my attention. Its the one thing I dislike about myself and wish to change the most.
learning to be more unapologetic
14 months ago
All my life, people told me that I say “I’m sorry” so often, too often. I was the child mature beyond her years in this respect, always the sweet, kind person who takes care not to hurt others’ feelings. Maybe too much so. For instance, I said it repeatedly when someone had to go out of their way to do me a favor, even though they really wanted to. Friends, relatives, teachers, waitresses. By now I’ve finally learned not to say “I’m sorry” so often… even though I oftentimes still am. I find it to be detrimental to how my boss and my coworkers view me. What was perhaps necessary, but doesn’t make me too happy, is that I’ve also developed an edge. How to be confident, but (not nice!) friendly or polite at the same time? I’m still learning.
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sorry
14 months ago
why do i always say sorry? even for stupid things like reaching for the same bag of chips at the super market…
annoying
15 months ago
I find myself saying I’m sorry for every little thing. It annoys me so much, and I’m sure it annoys other people!
