I have a huge problem with this! My mom, who I love dearly, was a weak person as I was growing up she remains a chronic worrier and apologizer to this day. Dad, on the other hand, was extremely harsh and didn’t believe kids should be kids (not his fault, he was out plowing the fields at age 7, never had a childhood himself). Result? A highly motivated, perfectionistic worrisome apologizer.
I struggle against the negative traits all the time, am actually a strong person, but I find myself frequently saying ‘sorry’ at work, and without good reason. This really needs to stop; I feel that if you do good work but apologize a lot others will get the impression that you DON’T do good work and make lots of mistakes. Plus it’s just annoying, makes you seem weak even if you aren’t. Sorry has it’s place, but not in excess. Perhaps by goal will be to banish it from my vocabulary with the exception of true apologies. 20 months ago