become stronger emotionally

They say time heals all wounds but what about the wounds that merely increase over time?
i have spent the worst part of my 20 years of life dealing with trauma event after trauma event. My question is how am i supposed to move past these tragic events? how am i supposed live a decently normal life, have a real relationship with someone, or even function throughout my days?
I want to become stronger with my emotions. i want to be able to deal with them in a better way that doesn’t hurt my personal life or the lives of those i love.