make friends with an enemy

Okay so it didn’t work out completely for me but it’s def worth doing. you can find closure for yourself even if it doesn’t work out. it was good and all while it lasted. i wish better luck for other who does this. but i am here for advice. lol. good luck! <3

Okay so theres this girl that was dating the guy whom is now my fiance. Well we use to hate each other becuse of it, we were jealous of each other. And now I wanna be friendswith her. Not because I have him. But because when me and her acctually did tlak we got along and we’re alot alike and shes a cool girl. What do I do?

You never know. You could have a lot more in common than you think. Plus, it’s always nice to make new friends. Having enemies are no fun.

This is the best research I can find, so far, on how to Become Friends With an Enemy. I do think that it needs work, but I guess its a start. I still want to find something and some other way that is more likely to produce the desired results. In adulthood, making friends with an enemy seems to be more challenging than in childhood. Here are some of the basic tips for becoming friends with an enemy. (I admit that this isn’t the best, but my research continues, and will continue until the day I die. According to Wikihow this is the best I can come up with at the moment. Of course I place my own personal insight into it:

Steps

1. First, determine why that person was your enemy. Did you do something bad to him/her or a close friend of that person? In that case, try to make amends, and explain yourself.

2. Approach this person and tell them that you want to resolve the issues that you two have together.

3. Let this person know that you could probably be really good friends, and the only thing stopping you from having a friendship is your differences.

4. Tell this person, that it isn’t worth it. You could be having fun together, instead of hating and fighting each other.

5. Invite your enemy to your home to play video games, go shoot pool, go to an arcade, a skate park. Anything that tells your enemy that you are not a threat. For the older crowd invite them for coffee, or a dinner, (perhaps don’t even try to mention the resolve.)

6. Offer to hang out with your enemy sometime, give him or her your phone number, and tell them that if they ever need something, or someone to talk to, that they can call you. By doing this, you’re letting them know that you no longer want to fight. Do not offer your phone number if you feel they may misuse it.

Tips

If you don’t feel comfortable by going anywhere with your enemy alone, let them know that a few of your friends will be there also.

Talk to your enemy about things that he or she likes, you never know, you may have something in common, and that could start a friendship.

Prove yourself. Often, your enemy just doesn’t respect you. Show you are worth it through your achievements (academic, athletic, whatever).

Warnings
Not everyone will take this and go with it. Some people are just difficult, and you may not be able to get through to them. You might have to just let them go their separate ways.

If this person is the dangerous type (violent, or could possibly have weapons) it’s best to leave it, and not approach him or her. (Tell someone as in the tip below)

If you feel that this person is a threat to you, or someone else, tell someone, anyone, immediately. ( A parent, school counselor, teacher, principal, police officer etc.)

Do not offer your phone number if you feel they may misuse it.

As they say, however sometimes I wonder if it is best to let bygones be bygones.

I have begun more research on this topic at

http://www.onfriendship.zoomshare.com/

I am hoping for it to become an online community that discusses this very important topic.